Sex parties can scare us for good reason
Sex Play Parties
At some point in our adult lives we need to be able to go to a sex party of some description. I say need, because they are the ultimate expression of our innately social-sexual human instincts; a connection with that part of us which most never embrace in our life-times but which are by far the most formative socially.
How will I know when I am ready to go to a sex party?
You may never be ready
In order to go to any sex party, you need to have done adequate self-development work and that is to keep both yourself and others safe. Many people imagine that they are ready simply because they have body-confidence and get on well with other people. Absolutely not adequate preparation on its own.
My strong advice is to book an "Interact" sensual massage with me and I can guide you though the process of boundary-checking with a stranger and asking for, being asked for, requesting, accepting, negotiating intimate touch. Also of knowing (and divulging) whether we are giving, receiving or both together - they are rare but essential skills! If you are thinking about going with your partner of friend, get them to book in alongside you using "Second client of couple" at no additional cost.
I will speak to you before, during and afterwards with a strong focus on assessing your ability to communicate about sexual desires openly, honestly and transparently and give an assessment of whether I consider you (both) are ready for your first party. We can also discuss what kind would be best for your particular needs right now.
I also recommend booking an event with Embodied Intimacy of Berlin and, if you can, attending their immersive Summer Camp, if not a weekend workshop. Find out more👇
You need to feel more excited than scared, obvs!
Will a sex event be safe for me?
Use your intuition is my best advice
Sex-positive events (where sex will happen) are often not regulated or insured (other than possibly under any existing Public Liability cover for the venue), so it is entirely up to you to carry out due-diligence before booking.
My strong advice is get testimonials from past attendees and ask questions of the organiser to establish:
- That at least one of the facilitators or assistants will be available (not playing) at any one time and so will be available to assist you in an emergency
- What the procedure is should you need support at the event
- That assistants and other attendees have been personally vetted and what that entails
- What kind of accountability exists between attendees, if any (for example the PAL system which requires you to have a buddy there)
- How long the facilitator has been running such events
- Whether attendees have to sign up to a code of conduct/ethics
- Whether penetration is permitted (I am aware of at least one in London where it is not)
Ideally, this stuff will already be answered in the description of the event somewhere but sometimes gets overlooked. Don't be afraid to ask - you will gain respect and trust.
Over and above those questions, ask anything you need to know so you turn up feeling sexy, relaxed and confident such as dress code and the structure, if any. A bit of excited anxiety actually helps most people but not so that you feel unsure whether you should be going.
I also suggest reading this this sex party tips article at Vice, if you are a beginner.
If you are still nervous about going to your first sex party, either alone or as a couple, why not hire me as a professional escort so that I can show you the ropes? Enquire now
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