My girlfriend's opinion: "It feels so good when you touch me because you know exactly what you are doing with those hot, strong hands. I can imagine why your clients get so horny - my concern is that they will try to have sex with you - well, who would know?"
I often have to move away from client's hands and heads when your touch turns into pleasuring me. It's understandable and feels good but this is about your pleasure, not mine.
"James put me at ease - calm, friendly and intuitive. Everything flowed very well, except at one point when he used the spiky wheel thing, but that is only because I have very sensitive skin. When I tried to touch his penis, he moved away. Really looking forward to a follow up massage in a few weeks - a New Year treat to myself!"
"I felt completely safe, held, respected, listened to and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience. Very professional. I am now feeling peaceful, relaxed and content. You have healing hands!! Thank you James"
"My massage with James was an excellent experience. He was professional and put me at my ease when we discussed what I wanted from the massage. He checked in with me during and the massage itself was great and really hit the spot. He has great hands."
"This was my first sensual massage with a qualified and experienced masseur. I was quite nervous initially, but James put me at ease through his very down to earth attitude and Karisma. James used a mixture of strokes and toys to enhance the experience... "
"I was fortunate enough to enjoy a sensual massage with James recently and would recommend to all. James was attentive, enthusiastic and skilled. He made a great effort to put us both at ease to ensure our experience was the best it could be and was able to take me into a zone of pleasure that lasted for around 2 hours... "
Transform your sex life: experience a genuine sense of emotional connection as I touch your body with care and attention.
Women can struggle to come during sex because of sensitive emotional "brakes" that need turning off. You simply aren't given the time to relax by partners. I show you how foreplay should feel.
Many men struggle with penis anxiety which leads to performance anxiety, impotence and premature ejaculation. I aim to make you feel attractive and adequate and help you deal with those issues, using my knowledge, skills, empathy and experience.
Feeling relaxed and cared for, with and by me is key to having an amazing experience. Lie back and enjoy the sensual journey in my "magic hands"(Sally - 9/9/20).
Let me light up your subjective arousal(situation/environment) so that genital arousal naturally follows. You will be relaxed even before I touch you and sexual anticipation will build as we process without any effort on your part. It will be a life-changing new experience that you will introduce to your sexual partnerships outside of our session.
Our session is about sensuality and there are two options for your pleasure: mutual touch or one-way touch; this is because we need to be clear and you may well want to touch me(most do!). This is about your pleasure, not mine.
You are unique and there is no one pathway to desire or arousal and indeed, one can happen without the other. As a women, you have a much narrower overlap so although physical arousal is easier and desire is more elusive without the right conditions. It is called non-concordence and is much misunderstood. For you as a man, it is more common for desire and arousal to overlap(50%). Sourced from Emily Nagoski's "Come As You Are".
Both sexes need to feel a mindful emotional connection with me for a fulfilling experience.
In addition to my sensual massage training, I am also a trained professional bodywork masseur, having completed massage training with Jing Advanced Massage Training in Brighton, and will partner this year with Lucy "Kaly" Miller to produce sensuality workshops in Brighton .
My first client, Cee Cee remarked that I am a natural giver and contacted me directly for further massages. High praise indeed, considering she clearly rated me highly against her incredibly highly experienced regular masseur.
I do not discriminate, and will massage anyone aged 16+(proof of age required if under 20), of any sex or sexual orientation. For my physical safety and yours, I am unfortunately unable to offer you a massage if you weigh greater than 100kg or can not get onto and from my table yourself. I realise that this may be disappointing but there will be other therapists who can give you the wonderful experience you deserve.
As a SkinMap client, you will be invited to join the private Telegram group and become part of a community of like-minded, sex-positive folk.
Men, especially, ask to see photos of me before they book. With this in mind, here are a few that show my body without any genital shots.
I will give you a relaxing, sensual massage with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs and desires after absolute agreement between us around our boundaries. All therapeutic massage given is bodywork.
You will be naked, allowing free-flowing and sensual strokes to the whole body.
It will take place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in my warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). You may have a shower first. I'll leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I will be guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I'll encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there will be 3 stages, split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
1. Trust And Relaxation
The first phase will be about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You'll be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I'll begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I'll remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses.
Now, hot coconut oil will be gently applied, and I'll give a bodywork full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They will be firm but not deep tissue.
There can be body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There will be sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it won't be fully erotic at this stage.
2. Build Arousal
I'll reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I'll continue with Swedish style massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation will become more vigorous with some techniques, intended to simulate sex and give the feeling of being pinned down. Being face down will allow your imagination to fantasise.
Tuning into your level of arousal I'll give just enough genital stimulation too. For women, It's usual for you to have an orgasm now but it's never the goal. For men I'll careful not to go past "the point of no return" yet and keep you in the excitement phase. I'll finish by covering you with a towel and give you a couple of minutes to allow arousal to subside before turning over. As a women, you may be in the orgasm resolution phase at this point and need to be left alone, covered, to relax for a few minutes.
3. Calm and Build Again
After checking you are ready to continue, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses.
Back to therapeutic massage whilst arousal subsides. I'll massage your shoulders, chest/breasts, and do a gentle belly massage.
Sliding the towel off, I'll massage your legs, lifting for thighs and again brushing between your legs to start building your arousal to get back to excitement again. With plenty of warm oil, I'll massage all areas between your legs and begin more intense clitoral/penile. If desired, I'll give internal massage, stimulating G/PS/P spots which can result in one or more(if you are a woman) orgasms. I will keep going as long as it's comfortable and pleasurable for you.
I'll finish by covering you with a towel while arousal subsides and you relax again, finishing with a foot, face and head massage to finish as you desire.
I'll leave the room for you to relax, before getting up and dressed, taking a shower if you wish.
For one-way touch, I can travel to you with my fold up table within a 10 mile radius of Brighton by road or near Victoria and London Bridge stations: Lewes, Newhaven, Seaford, Haywards Heath, Burgess Hill, Croydon, Bognor Regis, Kemptown, Hove, Portslade, Telscombe Cliffs, Peacehaven, Worthing and Shoreham by Sea are all within my range.
For two-way touch, full duration, I am able to travel twice that distance by car or train as it is more commercially viable and so for example, North London and out as far as say Hastings or Littlehampton.
For an idea of my location, it is a 15 min walk from Brighton Station. Address provided upon booking.
If you live in London, then my doorstep is just 1.5 hours from Victoria or London Bridge by train. Make it a day/night out (with partner?) , by the sea.
As well as opening you up to new and unlimited foreplay options in the bedroom together, it can be an opportunity to experience the thrill of intimacy amongst 3 people without sex(choose the service where I allow you to touch me). You will an idea of how you might feel about threesomes or cuckolding without the emotional risks.
Don't give up on experiences because of the pandemic! I have collated an amazing array of online events and experiences to see you through these hard times.
There are talks, online 1:1 training, voyeur parties, book discussions, all about anything that's just a little bit off-piste from vanilla life.
At the right time and place, there is the right porn for how you are feeling.
Anna at FrolicMe has done a brilliant job at producing and presenting a collection of beautiful, erotic fiction with compelling stories.
Women typically have a different path to arousal and desire. They frequently enjoy erotic fantasy about being dominated and having "rough" sex and acting it out in a safe way. They tend to get aroused by a wider range of porn than men.
Contrary to popular belief, men are highly sensitive to perceived rejection and are especially aroused by knowing how much someone enjoys their body. On the whole, monogamy seems more important for them.
Their biggest turn-on is usually watching a partner enjoy giving them oral sex.
A very common shared male and female fantasy is for him to watch his partner having sex with a stranger or friend (Cuckoldry). He becomes more horny and produces more semen.
Exciting photo isn't it? That's because it's in our DNA to have non-monogamous sex.
1 in 3 people you know have had at least one threesome and many are still enjoying it as part of their sexual repertoire so what are you waiting for? You must ensure you are both equally committed, if you have a partner, and know what your expectations are. Too high, and it may be disappointing.
Brighton, United Kingdom
Ask about any customisation you fantasise about including involving a second person you know.