Established January 2020
Sensual and tantric massage in Brighton and London
I'll be your mindful guide on a sensual journey of relaxation, arousal and sexual self-awareness
Finest erotic services in Sussex
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1 person may book alongside F.O.C. "Create Account" and move later. No "having sex" (see definition above) in these services (see Escorting instead). Treatments by me (no female therapists). Ask about low-income reductions.
Discover that your entire body is an erogenous zone.
Check availability and book:
Cheaper than London-based and easy to get to.
Enquire about me visiting you (can be London!)
After booking, choose your "vibe" on the Information and Consent form. For example:
Lingam and Yoni are Tantric names for the penis and vulva/vagina.
This is a shortened tantric massage of the body and genitals focused not on orgasm but harmonising the mind and erotic body.
Can have a sexually healing intent (you choose later).
Massage (naked or not) with no genital touch.
I am a trained Jing deep-tissue bodywork therapist.
Can incorporate hot stones.
Choose either of
- Jing deep tissue, pain-relief massage (book video consultation online).
- Sensual touch
You may upgrade to a genital touch massage during (subject to having additional money and my being available for additional time).
Sensual or tantric for two people, one after the other.
Check availability and book
Second person books here F.O.C.
Person not on table may watch on, join in, or leave room. I take a 15 minute break in-between.
Enquire about me visiting you (can be London).
Learn to give sensual massages, alongside me, on my model (M or F).
Reasons you might take up this offer:
👉Learn massage skills from me in real-time.
👉Explore your bi-sexual side (male or female).
👉Experience the thrill of a threesome dynamic in a safe space.
👉Experience the thrill of a foursome dynamic (bring a partner or friend).
You must provide alternative dates/times for my models.
Book now as a past client or book a vetting video call (with photo-ID ready, £15 credited against session).
I will guide you to better sex and relating.
Ideally suited to partners or lovers looking to relate more authentically both in the bedroom and more generally.
I will observe and coach you in realising a more connected and mindful way of relating to one another by demonstrating new techniques for intimate communication.
This may just save a marriage or partnership that has drifted into sexual boredom!
Find out more and book an initial consultation.
Sex Q&A video-chat (up to 1 hour)
£15 per 15 minutes
Ask me anything about sex.
I will help with any aspect of intimate relating. For example:
- How do I discuss non-monogamy with my partner?
- How can I have better orgasms outside of solo masturbation?
- How can he learn not to cum before I have?
- How do we make sex last longer?
- How can I/we become comfortable with talking filth to one another?
- How do I penetrate her without an erection?
- How do I discuss group sex with my partner without them shutting me down?
- What are sex parties actually like?
My preference is at his treatment room in my relaxing, clean flat near the centre of Brighton and just one-and-a-quarter hours door-to-door from Victoria or London Bridge by train and 30 minutes from Gatwick Airport. Click the map for more details.
Enquire about me visiting you (can be London for 90 minutes+ appointments). You would require a bed or comfortable floor space.
Whether visiting alone or with a friend or partner, you can stay the lovely AirBnB flat upstairs from where the treatment room is. Make it a naughty Brighton adventure and I will give you a 15% discount on your treatment as part of the package.
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I will write high-quality copy for your business.
Look no further than this website to see how well I can write. I have developed my craft over the past four years of developing and maintaining the site, and writing regular blog posts.
Although the expertise demonstrated here is focused on sex and relating, I am at ease writing on any subject, given sufficient information and context.
Got a project in mind? Let's have an initial chat now.
18+ only and specific consent requested/given when you book.
Agreements are only sound if they are understood
The best sessions happen when clients share their desires
Dear sensual explorer,
Memorable sexual experiences are mindful, relaxed and trusting.
Although we are not going to "have sex" (unless you have booked escorting) , it is a sexual experience so hear what Justin Lehmiller and Gabrielle say about good casual sex. It applies to our session because its about communicating authentically during intimacy.
Whilst we're on the topic:
- Escorting sessions encompass us both making offers and requests, so are within the full Wheel Of Consent®. That explains higher rates. I don't offer sexual surrogacy.
- Non-escorting sessions are restricted to me making offers and you requests, so sit within my Wheel Of Erotic Service©, and explains the lower rates.
Although the following stuff is focused on a non-escorting booking, it applies to any session.
Initiating "doing stuff" will be hornier for you, because you will explore boundary-fluidity instead of only accepting my suggestions. For example, you might say "Can you gently tug and blow on my ears?", "I would like you to watch me undress to the Pink Panther theme" or "My feet are cold, please can you put something over them?". You are guiding me in what you desire, moment-by-moment.
Taking pleasure from touching me is allowed and it doesn't have to be sexual. For example, you might ask "Can I run my fingers over your chest hair?" or I might offer "Would you like to embrace my waist?" . I encourage you to take it gradually at first and see where it takes us in conscious connection, checking-in about how it is flowing for both😏. If it is an allowed gift of access to my body, then it is being done to me because it is for you.
What happens at SkinMap stays in SkinMap, by which I mean I will not identify you personally to anyone. Please do tell all to your friends and leave me a review on Google Business or send me one to post anonymously here😍
Reading this stuff might feel uncomfortable if you're not that sex-positive yet but stick with it. There are three overall themes (change your mind, even during the session):
- No domination (the default): You want me to check-in with you as we go, making offers and you making requests as it progresses.This works best if you looking for a very conscious experience and are less submissive by nature because you will be directing me (to an extent); up to you how you feel on the day and you can switch between the two.
- Healing: (a check-box): You want a massage that is more about helping you feel more connected and confident, perhaps after experiencing something unhelpful in the past that has left you feeling sexually disconnected and/or anxious. There is a bit more here.
- Domination (a check-box): The idea of submitting to me turns you on. We agree how that needs to look so you feel safe and cared for still. We will certainly agree a safe word that isn't "Stop" but something I wouldn't expect to hear such as "Cactus" or whatever. People often combine it with exploring kinks, role-play or impact-play. It is important to note that this is not full domination unless it is an escorting session. I will enjoy doing it, but our intention is not a gift of pleasure for me.
If you find nerves are getting in the way, try this embodiment exercise to overcome them. It is normal for new clients to have this shadow reaction to a novel, vulnerable experience. However, this is your personal, journey of erotic exploration and discovery and nothing except your own judgement can prevent you from embracing it.
I write erotica occasionally so maybe have a read first, if that kind of thing fires up your naughty imagination. Be warned that very little is massage-related, and is mostly hedonistic, filthy, sexual fantasy using very "taboo" language I think gives it "edge"🤪.
If you like the sound of all this:
Book ⇨ introduction email with link to consent form ⇨ online consultation (optional) ⇨ find your way here ⇨ welcome chat ⇨ "coregulation" ⇨ massage ⇨ follow-up email
See you soon at mine or yours (by prior agreement),
James x
P.S. Take a look at the "What vibe do you desire?" section on the form now for a preview of my "sensual menu of delights".
life-transforming - boost your sexual confidence
Some reasons you might book
- I need to be more sexually confident and a better lover for my current or next relationship
- I need to heal my sexual trauma to enjoy intimacy and orgasms
- I have a disability, and so find it hard to find intimacy
- I am male or female and desire edging and perhaps multiple orgasms
- I am male and desire full body, shaking leg, prostate orgasms
- I need to rebuild my confidence with men
- I desire to overcome my inability to orgasm(anorgasmia)
- I need to get over my body image concerns about feeling comfortable naked
- I need to address my impotence or premature ejaculation issues
- I need to be able to ask for pleasure and set boundaries directly, without embarrassment or shame
- I desire no strings, skilled sensual touch and Tinder dates suck
- I desire to explore and develop my sexuality
- I need to rediscover my sensuality away from the stresses and demands of home(Has parenting taken over your life?) 😩
- I desire to explore touch from someone of my own sex
- I need to explore my fantasies with discression
- We desire to experience the thrill of watching her/him with another man/woman(cuckold)
- **I desire to try role-play and/or BDSM e.g. Make it a doctor's appointment, try cuffs, blindfolding, spanking, ball-gagging, dirty language. Ask me to spank, lie on, scald or tease you. Nothing you request is shameful because acting out a real-life sexual taboo in a safe, controlled setting with someone you trust is trauma-healing and exciting for most. Sensory deprivation alone often heightens arousal.
- We need to explore involving a third in our partnership🧑🤝🧑🕺
- I need more consistency as my romantic partner runs "hot and cold" when I ask for sensual touch
- I need to overcome controlling religious rules about having sexual touch 😇
- I desire a massage to go "all the way"
- *I desire to try sex toys such as vibrating cock rings, The Doxy Die Cast, and glass dildos from your selection(sterilised)
- *I desire to experience elements of Tantric Massage by introducing things such as ritual, eye-gazing and synchronised breath
*Must be requested on your booking form.
**Kinks to be requested on your booking form so we can agree details before your session. Can only be realised within the context of your massage and I will only introduce elements we have agreed upon. You can use an agreed "safe word" to stop the scene and revert to regular sensual massage.
Think of a desire as something you crave rather than need and I get a better idea of how I can help. We can discuss what is wanted to achieve them when you book.
What actually happens and how can I be confident that you are safe to be touching me naked?👇
Reproduced with permission from Nymphainna
What I'll do to excite you 🤗
You just lie back and receive - I'll do the work
I will give you a relaxing sensual or tantric massage (say which on the booking form)with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs and desires after absolute agreement between us around our boundaries. All therapeutic massage given is bodywork. It may also include role-play or BDSM if we have discussed and agreed them. Detail them on the booking form.
It is important for me that you remain in a state of conscious, embodied awareness and don't "zone out" because it can make it more difficult to tune into how you are feeling or possibly even know whether you are still able to give informed consent to receive touch. Essentially, I invite you to remain responsive to how I am touching you rather than going into an entirely passive, "star fish" mode on the table😄. The more sounds, movements, verbal feedback and so on that you can provide, the more attuned we will be. This invites more flow and boundary fluidity; the degree to which we are able to adapt to your changing needs and desires.
If I detect that you have gone into a triggered "freeze" state then I will gently end the session and help you to emotionally regulate. This hasn't happened during a session yet and I want to reassure you I won't just carry on regardless.
It will take place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in my warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). You may have a shower first. I'll leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I will be guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I'll encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there will be 3 stages, split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
- Trust And Relaxation.
- Build Arousal.
- Calm And Build Again.
1. Trust And Relaxation
The first phase will be about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You'll be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I'll begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I'll remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses.
Now, hot coconut oil will be gently applied, and I'll give a bodywork full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They will be firm but not deep tissue.
There can be body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There will be sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it won't be fully erotic at this stage.
2. Build Arousal
I'll reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I'll continue with bodywork massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation will become more vigorous with techniques** intended to simulate sex. For women, you may have an orgasm but it's not the goal. For men I'll careful not to go to level 7(the point of no return) yet and keep you just at the edge. As a women, if you have climaxed, you probably need to be left alone, covered for a bit.
3. Calm and Build Again
After checking you are ready to continue, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses and I will ask you about this.
I will now work on the front of your body as you choose and that may include breast and nipple play. I can do some face and neck massage if you like and will work on your legs. I will hold your hand and check in with you before gradually moving towards your genital area and my intuition and your responses such as you squeezing my hand back. You are always in control of what I am doing and it is your choice as to whether you touch me and where. Touching me back is an important aspect for most clients as they become aroused and it should not be seen as something I am offering for my own gratification.
I can finish with leaving alone/cuddling/hand-holding/gentle wiping - whatever you need to feel cared for.
**Certain aspects are limited by your "Intimacy Level" when you book.
#organised #confident #skilled
There is no sex with me during a sensual or tantric massage
I say this because a significant number of people ask me, and especially couples booking a cuckold massage.
Initially, I would turn away prospective clients who were after that too and then realised it was something I would be willing to offer with certain other conditions and an appropriate pricing structure.
Also, my agreement with my girlfriend must be honoured if I am to agree to sex with clients.
Where will I see you?🚐🚂🚶
My comfortable treatment room at my flat in Brighton
My smart flat is by the Hanover area of Brighton (address provided in your booking confirmation email).
Enquire about me visiting you (can be London for 90+ minutes appointments). We would require a bed or comfortable floor space. This might be in a hotel room you book or at home.
On street, paid parking available via the Pay By Phone app or by card.
My doorstep is just 1.5 hours from Victoria or London Bridge by train. Make it part of a naughty weekend in Brighton with a partner or friend or just come down for the day - many neighbours commute to London daily.
#accessible #easyfromlondon
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