Before language we used touch, both to communicate and to nourish one another. It's a hard-wired need we have neglected.
Relate in a more authentic way to others and improve your sex life by accepting the gift of prolonged arousal from a skilled and caring therapist.
"This was my first sensual massage with a qualified and experienced masseur. I was quite nervous initially, but James put me at ease through his very down to earth attitude and Karisma. James used a mixture of strokes and toys to enhance the experience... "
"I was fortunate enough to enjoy a sensual massage with James recently and would recommend to all. James was attentive, enthusiastic and skilled. He made a great effort to put us both at ease to ensure our experience was the best it could be and was able to take me into a zone of pleasure that lasted for around 2 hours... "
I am James(42), about to undertake professional conventional bodyworks massage training with Jing Avanced Massage Training in Brighton, to supplement workshops I have already completed in London with the leading sensual masseur in the UK. Most of my experience has been gained through massages given subsequently.
Colin Richards of Intimacy Matters and my female workshop volunteer both remarked that I am a natural giver.
I am comfortable with massaging people of ages 18 to 60 and any sexual orientation. For my own physical safety and to meet the maximum rating of my massage table, I am unfortunately unable to offer you a massage if you weigh greater than 96kg. I realise that this may be disappointing but there will be other therapists who can give you the wonderful experience you deserve.
As a SkinMap client, you will be invited to join the private Telegram group and become part of a community of like-minded, sex-positive folk.
I would be very happy to discretely chat with you via email initially and/or have a phone call using the secure Telegram app which doesn't expose phone numbers or real names.
I create an evironment of trust and care to allow you to relax and fully engage with the sensual journey, moment by moment.
A conventional swedish style full body massage that includes your whole body and a guided path to arousal where you are the passenger, kicking back and enjoying the wind in your hair. Although most of my touches are not intimate, the gradual but inevitable sense of sexual anticipation becomes so incredible that a fabulous orgasm is usually a given (for women, more than once). Foreplay as it should be played: Slowly and with a desire to please with every touch, whether a feather stroking along your ankle, or a brush of a finger on that sensitive area above your hip - it all quickly becomes erogenous when you relax into receiving with someone who really knows how to give.
At times I will squeeze your hand to reassure you and get an idea of your mood. I encourage you to give tactile feedback too. It is very much a shared journey but one where you are the main focus and receiver of pleasure.
I always start the massage with my bottom half covered but can become completely naked about half way through if you are OK with it. Your contentment is crucial at all times.
If at any time you have to urge to touch me, you may do so when I am within reach but try not to move around to do so. Caresses are fine.
I lots of hot coconut oil because it allows me to persistently apply necessary pressure without discomfort and, above all, heightens the sensations. Unrefined coconut oil has just the right slipperiness and smells wonderful. This is something else that varies from a conventional massage where they tend to use a fraction of the quantity that I do.
Your partner may watch and/or join in half way to massage you alongside me. It can be very thrilling for both and may help develop your own massage skills.
You can opt for either a full 2 hour massage or a condensed 90 minutes which has a greater focus on conventional deep-tissue therapy and less on arousal. This can be a more acceptable option for a first time experience.
A Tantric masseur, uses exactly the same arousal techniques as I do, but will talk about spirituality, sexual energy and chakras, which are all valid approaches too. They may also explain that men should not have the intention or expectation of an orgasm during the massage.
I can travel to you with my fold up table within a 10 mile radius of Brighton: Lewes, Newhaven, Seaford, Worthing and Shoreham by Sea are all within my range.
If you choose to have your massage in my flat (15 mins from Brighton Station) we can start with a relaxing soak in the hot tub.
If you live in London, then my doorstep is just 1.5 hours from Victoria or London Bridge by train. Make it a day/night out (with partner?) , by the sea.
If you would prefer to chat in a call or real-time text, then you can do so from your phone using the secure Telegram app which does not expose either of our phone numbers or your real name, if you chose.
Install Telegram here, then use the "Ask a Question" Contact Form above/left to ask for my Telegram username.
Brighton, United Kingdom
Ask about any customisation you fantasise about including involving a second person you know.
At my smart, relaxing flat with a 40 degree hot tub start, or your location with my mobile massage kit. If you are not quite ready for the most intimate elements, a reduced time option is available that focuses more on theraputic massage.
Your partner is welcome join me half way in, to make it a mind-blowing 4 hands with my expert guidance in arousal and masturbation techniques. No extra cost.
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Have fun discussing it with your partner when you are both feeling fruity then make it the backdrop for a steamy session.
It's been reported that both men and women have more and better-quality sex when single but I'm not going to judge that.
Woman have a much stronger genetic urge for multiple partners, and frequently need freedom and variety to be satisfied.
They have a very different path to arousal and most secretly(often!) enjoy erotic fantasy about strangers and "rough" sex. Both sexes have fantasies that combine vaginal/anal and oral sex simultaneously (spit-roast), often with multiple people (gang bang). Men and especially women sometimes like to be blindfolded and bound during sex. There is no shame in living out these fantasies in a consentual setting.
Women can quickly get bored of sex with the same partner.
Men have a much stronger genetic urge for monogamy, but are happy to share their partner(s) and generally like to be involved.
Contrary to popular belief, men are highly sensitive to perceived rejection and are especially aroused by knowing how much someone enjoys their body.
Their biggest turn-on is seeing them watching him whilst sucking his cock and tasting him.
A very common shared male and female fantasy is for him to watch his partner having sex with a stranger or friend (and sometimes unable to see who it is): Cuckoldry. He becomes more horny and produces more semen.
Exciting photo isn't it? That's because it's in our DNA to have non-monogamous sex.
1 in 4 people you know have enjoyed it at least once and many are at it still so what are you waiting for? You must ensure you are both equally committed, if you have a partner.
If you are a sensual masseur and would like to benefit from my reach and branding, I would be happy to consider your proposition.
It might be a collaboration in Brighton to provide 4 hands massages or to expand your offering when you cannot satisfy a request.
It might be a dedicated page on the site and access to the booking system so that you can readily attract business in your area. You will benefit from my branding, reputation and Search Engine Optimisation (SEO) skills so that you appear high up in Google Searches for "Sensual Massage <your location here>".
Your booking page could look like mine, but with your branded photo and so on. It has a comprehensive back end system that knows your availability and takes a deposit, removing booked slots from your calendar and emailing and SMS texting a confirmation to both you and the client.
The client can manage their own booking, and move it to a new slot, if required. The £25 deposit becomes my commission and you take the balance on the day. A reminder is automatically sent to the client by text and email 3 hours prior to the appointment.