Naughty nuns & bi-curious builders welcome
Mindful erotic massage by James in Brighton
A conscious experience for all that invites your body to soften, open, and rediscover its natural sensual rhythm.
Deep Presence Meets Transformational Touch
Beyond technique
I'll provide a much-needed escape from everyday life into an intentional, playful, intimate space — a relaxed zone where you'll effortlessly reconnect with your sexual self.
In a world that often disconnects us from our bodies and from one another, my conscious sensual touch is profoundly healing:
- Supports relationships
- Enhances self-esteem
- Improves sexual communication
- Deepens emotional intimacy
- Plays a decisive role in sex education and sexual confidence
My work is shaped by 6 years' lived, embodied experience. True integration happens after hundreds of hours of feeling — sensing the body’s responses, reflecting with care, and allowing understanding to deepen through presence rather than force. The ability to stay attuned to you, moment-by-moment, is only acquired that way.
Some clients say it was the first time they truly felt seen, safe, and fully at home in their own sensuality.
If you’re looking for a man in Brighton who understands the subtle language of the body, honours boundaries, and offers touch as a transformative, healing, and deeply human experience, you’re in the right place.
Reclaiming shame-free sexuality
About half of my clients are women, and many seek an empowering, discrete, playful experience that reveals something to themselves. They’ve often realised this is only possible with a someone who:
- They can trust
- Is a consent expert
- Has testimonials from other women
- Knows how to give pleasure
- Doesn’t request to be pleasured in return
That’s a big ask in most casual encounters — and not always available within an existing partnership.
Indeed, sex worker, academic, and author Dr Hilary Caldwell’s research into women who have paid for sexual services revealed something striking:
“The payment, for many women, is not about buying a body — it’s about buying space.
Space to be seen, felt, wanted… without having to perform.”
In her podcast interview with Dr Justin Lehmiller in June '25 she made three important points:
- "[casual sex is] much more dangerous for women [than for men]"
- "Sex workers are consent experts and you learn from [them]"
- "[good] sex is a beautiful, intuitive thing"
Women told Hillary that after paying for sexual services:
✨ They felt deeply good in themselves.
✨ They approached dating in a different way.
✨ They formed new relationships.
✨ They went and asked that boss for a raise.
“They actually changed their lives — because they felt this confidence on a level they’d never felt before.”
— Dr Hilary Caldwell
Where pleasure flows... safely
The SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service© (the "Wheel") is our playful compass for knowing exactly where we stand... so we can go deliciously deep.
Put simply: I’ll only make offers and you'll only make requests.
✨ About how I touch you.
✨ About how you might want to touch me.
In case you were wondering, you have the option for me to be naked and to touch me because clients find it honest and authentic, and this work relies upon that. The Wheel ensures gifts always flow your way (irrespective of how much I enjoy it).
It’s all on the table, with spark and sovereignty.
Experience how clear, positive communication underpins good sexual experiences and is key to healing past wounds.
✨ Every offer will be received with gratitude
✨ Every request will be welcomed without judgement
✨ We don’t do rejection - only sexy, positive negotiation
No guessing, no awkwardness, just a slow dance of respectful, careful negotiation along the lines of "I would like...", "Would you like...?", "Yes please", "Not now and maybe later", "Thanks and how about this instead?", "Thanks - I'll try it and see". I deliberately use "and", avoiding the dismisive "but"
Because I take hygiene seriously, linen is washed at the correct temperature with a biological product, surfaces and equipment are disinfected, and I'll be freshly showered.
For me, deep erotic work only makes sense when it’s grounded in ethics, consent, and care.
Accountability matters — especially when providing sex services
I welcome clients irrespective of age, gender, sexuality and identity. So long as you're 18+, able to comprehend my Information and Consent Form and can communicate effectively during your session, all is good. I try to accommodate disabilities and have been approved by TLC Trust (part of charity Outside Trust, Reg No. 283350), who's mission is:
"That disabled people can use sexual and intimate services to help them learn about physical pleasure and may enable them to move forward towards personal sexual relationships."
Vetting was stringent:
"The TLC team individually approve each new provider, so you can rest assured that they are legitimate and professional."
Finest Erotic Massage In Sussex
Available to both sexes from James in Brighton
Genital touch, 18+ and guided by The Wheel Of Consent®.
Mindful massage with focus on bringing positive, unhurried, curious attention to arousing touch.
For Women
When relaxation is present, the body softens. Emotional resistance gives way to deep surrender, opening the door to pleasure.
For Men
Shifting attention away from performance reconnects with sensitivity. Away from pressure - towards flow.
This is receiving with awareness—a gateway to more empowered, embodied intimacy in every area of life.
Book solo (maybe bring a lover/friend (F.O.C.)?)
Sensual or tantric (90 minutes)
£90-£150
Full-length erotic massage and/or kink-exploration (see below). Usually incorporates a yoni/lingam massage.
Book below:
Read "Room Service" if you are interested in me visiting you.
After booking, I ask you to choose your "vibe" and give consent here. For example:
- tantric🧞
- cuckold👁 (partner F.O.C.)
- bi-curious❓
- fantasy role-play🧛
- impact play🤚
- kink/bdsm and toys🪢
- Touch me👐
- Hot stones🪨
Conventional massage
Nakedness optional, 16+ and no genital touch
Proper massage (naked or not) with no genital touch😇.
I am a trained Jing deep-tissue bodywork therapist.
Can incorporate hot stones.
Choose either of
- Jing deep tissue, pain-relief massage (book video consultation online).
- Sensual touch
If 18+ you may upgrade to one of the erotic services during your session (subject to having additional money and my being available for any time extension).
Information (incl. age) and consent requested online after booking request.
What others are most interested in
Take a look at the stats
This report shows how many views there were of the different erotic massage booking calendars during the period 24 December 2025 - 22 January 2026.
Keys:
- interact_sensual_service = I'm naked
- standard_sensual_service = I wear shorts
- intro_sensual_service = external touch only
Green and red text shows relative changes compared with the previous 30 day period.
Looking for novelty?
According to research, we all have sexual fantasies we want to realise
Many feel shame about having sex fantasies and they remain unexplored except during masturbation. Clients sometimes share them with me for the 1st time and maybe you recognise these most common themes?
- More than two: Both sexes have at least entertained the idea of a threesome
- Power, control, and rough: Rough sex involving spanking, hot wax, restraints, biting, and other dom/sub acts rate highly for many
- Changing things up: It can help reignite the spark in a long-term relationship
- Taboo circumstances: Rule-breaking and the risk of getting caught
- Open relationships: Similar to threesome, the idea of opening up a relationship
- Passion and romance: Meaningful sex that makes you feel desired (and good in bed)
- Same-sex encounters, gender-bending, and erotic flexibility
For my sensual massage in Brighton clients, "Taboo circumstances" and "same-sex encounter" fantasies are top for many. For couples massages, "more than two" and "changing things up" are always important. Everyone needs to experience 4 hands on them at least once; you are just introducing my skilled hands and guidance to your relationship for a couple of hours..
All are welcome, and maybe you are a bi-curious man, sexually-bored wife, curious about BDSM, or a couple looking for a threesome massage experience without full sex, just yet?
Discover more about fantasies by listening to expert Dr Justin Lehmiller.
Jealousy Into Joy
If you've read The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, you’ll know it’s a goldmine of wisdom around navigating jealousy, freedom, and intimacy.
SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service©
Agreements For Erotic Massage Are Unique
This visual emerged after many hours of reflection, practice, and deep inquiry into how Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent could evolve to honour the unique dynamics of erotic massage.
As a practitioner, I’ve long observed that many clients, after experiencing the safety, presence, and sensual depth of an embodied session, feel an organic desire not just to receive touch, but to give it in return. Not in a transgressive or boundary-pushing way, but as a natural expression of mutual connection and trust.
Yet the original Wheel of Consent didn’t quite accommodate this space. It was built around polarity:someone gives, someone receives. In erotic massage, where connection deepens and roles can gently shift, something else was needed to honour the fact that everything is for the client's pleasure.
This version centres the two-way flow of erotic touch, grounded in the understanding that intention and agreement shape everything. The four quadrants remain rooted in consent principles, but they allow for a more mutual and co-created experience:
- Give Gift: The therapist offers touch for the client's benefit.
- Take Gift: The client offers touch for their own enjoyment, with clear agreement.
- Receive Gift: The client accepts touch that is offered for their pleasure.
- Allow Gift: The therapist permits the client to touch, in service of the client’s experience.
What changes here is clarity of invitation. Every action is framed by mutual consent, named and known in advance. The therapist never owes receptivity, but can choose to receive touch with sovereignty and presence.
The client is never expected to give touch, but is empowered to, when it arises from genuine desire and shared agreement.
The diagram describes the following agreements
I can make offers, and you requests about:
- How you are touched
- How I am touched
And ethics imply:
- Offers responded to with gratitude
- Requests made without expectation
- Negotiation, not rejection
Agreements are only sound if they are understood
The best sessions happen when clients share their desires
Dear sensual explorer,
Memorable sexual experiences are mindful, relaxed and trusting.
Although we are not going to "have sex", it is a sexual experience so hear what Justin Lehmiller and Gabrielle say about good casual sex. It applies to our session because its about communicating authentically during intimacy.
Initiating "doing stuff" will be hornier for you, because you will explore boundary-fluidity instead of only accepting my suggestions. For example, you might say "Can you gently tug and blow on my ears?", "I would like you to watch me undress to the Pink Panther theme" or "My feet are cold, please can you put something over them?". You are guiding me in what you desire, moment-by-moment.
Taking pleasure from touching me is allowed and it doesn't have to be sexual. For example, you might ask "Can I run my fingers over your chest hair?" or I might offer "Would you like to embrace my waist?" . I encourage you to take it gradually at first and see where it takes us in conscious connection, checking-in about how it is flowing for both. The bottom line is that if I grant access to my body then it is agreed, and primarily for your pleasure.
What happens at SkinMap stays in SkinMap, by which I mean I will not identify you personally to anyone. Please do tell all to your friends and leave me a review on Google Business or send me one to post anonymously here😍
Reading this stuff might feel uncomfortable if you're not that sex-positive yet but stick with it. There are three overall themes (change your mind, even during the session):
- No domination (the default): You want me to check-in with you as we go, making offers and you making requests as it progresses.This works best if you looking for a very conscious experience and are less submissive by nature because you will be directing me (to an extent); up to you how you feel on the day and you can switch between the two.
- Healing: (a check-box): You want a massage that is more about helping you feel more connected and confident, perhaps after experiencing something unhelpful in the past that has left you feeling sexually disconnected and/or anxious. There is a bit more here.
- Domination (a check-box): The idea of submitting to me turns you on. We agree how that needs to look so you feel safe and cared for still. We will certainly agree a safe word that isn't "Stop" but something I wouldn't expect to hear such as "Cactus" or whatever. People often combine it with exploring kinks, role-play or impact-play. It is important to note that this is not full domination. I will enjoy doing it, but our intention is not a gift of pleasure for me.
If you find nerves are getting in the way, try this embodiment exercise to overcome them. It is normal for new clients to have this shadow reaction to a novel, vulnerable experience. However, this is your personal, journey of erotic exploration and discovery and nothing except your own judgement can prevent you from embracing it.
I write erotica occasionally so maybe have a read first, if that kind of thing fires up your naughty imagination. Be warned that very little is massage-related, and is mostly hedonistic, filthy, sexual fantasy using very "taboo" language I think gives it "edge"🤪. We all have unexplored fantasies and this might be your chance to realise a few.
See you soon at mine or yours (by prior agreement),
James x
P.S. Take a look at the "What vibe do you desire?" section on the form now for a preview of my "sensual menu of delights".
Click to find out more about me
What happens?
Ethos
Each session is a journey — not a race.
We begin gently, inviting your body to open in its own time. I guide, but you lead the way with your energy, your breath, your readiness.
Every stage is crafted to deepen sensation, heighten trust, and awaken pleasure without ever rushing the process.
You are always in choice.
Nothing is assumed.
Everything unfolds from connection.
🎧Cosmopolitan Interview on Spotify
In this fascinating podcast interview, Cee Cee tells her empowering story of sexual self-discovery and what it felt like the first time she received an erotic massage from a professional.
Cee Cee was my volunteer when training with Colin Richards of Intimacy Matters in London the day before this was recorded. They both said I was naturally-gifted and that was the moment I decided to start this exciting business. Listen below:
Stage 1: Settle and Soften
We begin with slow, connected, grounding touch — designed to calm the nervous system and build trust.
I’ll use my hands with intention, creating a sense of safety and steady presence. Expect soothing, sensual strokes along your neck, lower back, inner thighs, and glutes — suggestive but not overtly erotic.
This stage isn’t about intentional arousal. It’s about readiness — easing the body into receiving.
Stage 2: Invite Arousal
As your awareness sharpens, I begin to reawaken your senses with a mix of invigorating full-body strokes and feather-light fingertip techniques — teasing the edge of sensation.
You may feel flickers of anticipation or even shivers across the skin (energetic orgasm).
I’ll gradually introduce more deliberate, arousing patterns — circling closer to your intimate zones, but always attuned to your breath, sounds, and the cues you offer.
For women, this may be the time you have orgasm(s). For men, I’ll play close to your edge while keeping you in a state of delicious suspension. This is where the dance of control and surrender begins — with me guiding, and you choosing.
Stage 3: Soften Again — and Deepen
If you’re ready to continue, I’ll invite you to lie on your back — supported and draped for comfort. You may wish to use a blindfold at this stage, to deepen your internal focus and heighten other senses.
Now we explore the front of your body with care and attention. If you choose, this may include chest and breast massage, face and neck touch, and eventually, optional exploration of your most intimate areas — always in response to your body, your breath, and your signals.
Hand-holding, verbal check-ins, and subtle gestures guide the energy here. If you choose to touch me back, that is welcomed — not expected — and always framed within a dynamic of mutual presence, not performance.
Aftercare
When the experience concludes, you’ll be given space to integrate — whether that means being gently held, left quietly alone, or simply wiping down with care. This is your time to rest, reflect, and let the energy settle.
Your chosen Intimacy Level at booking will decide whether internal massage is offered, and whether I may become naked too.
Ready to begin your journey?
15% Valentine Discount
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