
38% of UK sexually-dissatisfied
Erotic experiences for singles and couples by James in Brighton
I'll guide you towards increased sexual self-awareness and satisfaction using mindful, arousing, sensual touch.
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I'll guide you towards increased sexual self-awareness and satisfaction using mindful, arousing, sensual touch.
"Thank you so much for your time yesterday and the sensual experience with you! As you can imagine I left very satisfied and slept very well and woke up with a spring in my step!"
If you're new to erotic massage, then it's understandable and I invite you to resolve any anxieties by chatting with me first:
My practice is guided by Betty Martin's The Wheel Of Consent®
Clothed connection ritual, followed by mindful massage of erogenous zones.
You learn how to actively receive touch so you start to pursue and enjoy more engaged, empowered sexual experiences.
Women
Releasing emotional brakes by creating a vulnerable, trusting, erotic space creates conditions ripe for orgasm.
Men
Moving focus from erection & orgasm towards sensation resolves erectile dysfunction and P.E.
Hey, it all feels amazing, whatever🤪
Authentic full-body massage (as enjoyed before we got hysterical about sex)
Check availability and book:
After booking, I ask you to choose your "vibe" and give consent here. For example:
Proper massage (naked or not) with no genital touch😇.
I am a trained Jing deep-tissue bodywork therapist.
Can incorporate hot stones.
Choose either of
You may upgrade to a genital touch massage during (subject to having additional money and my being available for additional time).
18+ only and specific consent requested/given when you book.
Although brief, our time together was fundamental to realising a similar path; introducing others to the pleasure and benefits of sacred sexual touch
Many feel shame about having sex fantasies and they remain unexplored except during masturbation. Clients sometimes share them with me for the 1st time and maybe you recognise these most common themes?
For my sensual massage in Brighton clients, "Taboo circumstances" and "same-sex encounter" fantasies are top for many. For couples massages, "more than two" and "changing things up" are always important. Everyone needs to experience 4 hands on them at least once; you are just introducing my skilled hands and guidance to your relationship for a couple of hours..
All are welcome, and maybe you are a bi-curious man, sexually-bored wife, curious about BDSM, or a couple looking for a threesome massage experience without full sex, just yet?
Discover more about fantasies by listening to expert Dr Justin Lehmiller.
I'm a sex-professional, not just a worker.
Because ethics are my unique selling point, I'm a devotee of The Wheel of Consent® by Betty Martin (considered the gold-standard for safe touch work).
Gifts of pleasure flow from me to you because you make requests (e.g. "I would like"), and I make offers (e.g. "would you like?").
To describe it visually, I came up with my own diagram👇
Dear sensual explorer,
Memorable sexual experiences are mindful, relaxed and trusting.
Although we are not going to "have sex", it is a sexual experience so hear what Justin Lehmiller and Gabrielle say about good casual sex. It applies to our session because its about communicating authentically during intimacy.
Initiating "doing stuff" will be hornier for you, because you will explore boundary-fluidity instead of only accepting my suggestions. For example, you might say "Can you gently tug and blow on my ears?", "I would like you to watch me undress to the Pink Panther theme" or "My feet are cold, please can you put something over them?". You are guiding me in what you desire, moment-by-moment.
Taking pleasure from touching me is allowed and it doesn't have to be sexual. For example, you might ask "Can I run my fingers over your chest hair?" or I might offer "Would you like to embrace my waist?" . I encourage you to take it gradually at first and see where it takes us in conscious connection, checking-in about how it is flowing for both. The bottom line is that if I grant access to my body then it is agreed, and primarily for your pleasure.
What happens at SkinMap stays in SkinMap, by which I mean I will not identify you personally to anyone. Please do tell all to your friends and leave me a review on Google Business or send me one to post anonymously here😍
Reading this stuff might feel uncomfortable if you're not that sex-positive yet but stick with it. There are three overall themes (change your mind, even during the session):
If you find nerves are getting in the way, try this embodiment exercise to overcome them. It is normal for new clients to have this shadow reaction to a novel, vulnerable experience. However, this is your personal, journey of erotic exploration and discovery and nothing except your own judgement can prevent you from embracing it.
I write erotica occasionally so maybe have a read first, if that kind of thing fires up your naughty imagination. Be warned that very little is massage-related, and is mostly hedonistic, filthy, sexual fantasy using very "taboo" language I think gives it "edge"🤪. We all have unexplored fantasies and this might be your chance to realise a few.
See you soon at mine or yours (by prior agreement),
James x
P.S. Take a look at the "What vibe do you desire?" section on the form now for a preview of my "sensual menu of delights".
"James knowledge of breath-work, energy flow, and mindful awareness ensures his massages are not just sensual but give heightened sensation and intimacy.
Stuart February 2025"
Background
Following spinal trauma, Stuart (59) has a degenerative nerve condition (similar to MS). He's lost some sensation in his penis, which has led to erectile dysfunction and resulting loss of body/sexual confidence. His motivations listed on the Information and Consent form:
He's booked a further session in March.
(Stuart is a pseudonym)
"Good morning James!
Thank you so much for your time yesterday and the sensual experience with you! As you can imagine I left very satisfied and slept very well and woke up with a spring in my step!
I wish I didn’t have to rush off either as I would have loved to relax more with you in the hot tub but I shall be back again.. soon!
I was rather selfish in my experience yesterday as much as I also wanted to touch you more.. maybe next time?
I will definitely cum again…
Sonia xx
(Ps. I will also leave a review for you but.. wanting to keep it anonymous!)"
(Sonia is a pseudonym)
Dina (mid-20's) booked an erotic massage in Brighton because:
After a brief phone conversation, we were confident she was making a sound decision. She explained on her information and consent form that male moans and deep kissing sounds help her orgasm and specifically requested blowing on her ears and neck-kissing during the session.
We did some clothed connection work first, which I recommend for clients that are new to me and/or the experience - it really helped her to develop trust and we held hands. I left the room for her to get undressed and cover herself on the table, which we agreed was a gradual start for such a new experience.
Dina responded really well to head massage, the neck and ear attention, and moaned with pleasure at the sensation of hot oil down her back and between her legs. By the time my hands worked up her thighs, she was squirming to let me know she was ready for more intimate touch.
Knowing she enjoyed a vibe, I had my Doxy® Die Cast wand to hand. With the powerful head rumbling against the back of my hand, she guided my vibrating fingers to just the right place. As her orgasm surged, I coached her in using breath to spread the energy around her body and extend the climax.
(authorised by client, using pseudonym, without age)
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Hallie (31) via Telegram
"Amazing, really really amazing service from you. Not only the physical intimacy but the fact of the emotional healing. Being in front of another person naked with bare scars and plus sized body for all to see and not feel ashamed or that I’m disgusting the other person. I will be continuing with your services as and when possible. 5 star service. Happy client!"
(reproduced with permission, using pseudonym)
Yesterday I had two unusual bookings, which is something I love about this job - the endless variety of motivations, desires and situations.
At 4pm I made an outcall visit to Hallie (31) in her hotel room. I took all my essentials in a rucksack, including the oil heater and 2 dildos; glass and realistic silicone. Hallie suffers from body-dysphoria, is "plus-sized" and has extensive self-harsm scars. She misses sexual-intimacy and I was confident I could help. We clicked immediately and she felt relaxed enough for 2 powerful orgasms.
At 7pm Alana (42) and partner (44) arrived at mine. They had recently visited the naked Bristol Gardens Health Spa and it had got them fantasising about exploring a 3-some situation with a man and they chose me. Oh my, was it hot seeing them kissing and him sucking her nipples as I gave her a pussy massage? You could feel the sexual energy between us, as she grasped my thigh, moaning as her climax approached. They want to more interaction with me next time.
(using pseudonyms)
Jamie (48) booked a same-day "interact" session (where I'm naked), followed by a message to confirm my availability because of her 2-hour journey. I smiled with pride, knowing she was committing 6+ hours to see me. Apparently, my photos were a major factor - shucks!
Jamie's motivation was to experience a first sensual massage; she's very sex-positive and a sub on the BDSM scene I was surprised to learn she lacks body-confidence, but then many of us do.
We were soon cracking jokes and laughing - a sign we were enjoying one another's company and feeling attraction. She especially enjoyed close attention to her feet and toes and slow, mindful yoni massage (I sit astride the table, facing you, lying back with legs over my calves).
Jamie finally accepted all the body-praise as authentic and, as we cuddled then spooned at the end, we discussed how it felt. I knew she enjoyed cuddles and aftercare from her Information and Consent form.
A dreamy session.
(using pseudonym)
"Good morning young Man.
Thank you again for my orgasmic experience on Wednesday. I’m hoping you have a fantastic experience yourself today and hopefully she’s not going to be late. Best wishes till the next time you put a big smile on my face x".
Note
This was Maggie's (83) 2nd visit and she has already booked her next on 22nd January.
"I highly recommend time with James, for anyone looking to explore their sexuality and themselves that little bit more. I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of a very blissful 90 minute trantric massage with James - from the variety of his massage touch, amazing foot massage and my first prostate massage; that was a wonderful thing to experience with a soul as sexy, mindful and gentle as James is. Throughout the appointment his manner put me at ease, enabling me to 'just be', uninhibited and carefree. I very much look forward to my next appointment! ~ Jim".
"Thank you very much for today James. You were very kind and made me feel good from the start of our appointment. Feel as if I knew you and was totally relaxed before our session and absolutely brilliant afternoon hopefully will see you December. Maggie".
My reflection
At 83, Maggie is a prime example that we need never stop enjoying new erotic experiences.
Telegram
"Following my writing of a fantasy which James posted on his blog, i decided to visit James and act out the prisoner/warden fantasy. James was very good at getting into the role of prison warden. The whole scenario went perfectly. If your into being fondled and groped whilst handcuffed to a ceiling hook then book a session with James. Thank you James."
"Hi James
Great to see you again last week. I enjoyed our talk too and found an article on Kunyaza that I thought would interest you https://newint.org/features/web-exclusive/2017/12/15/kunyaza-rwanda-sex-equality
See you again soon!
Sarah xx"
"Dear James,
I woke up feeling so sexually fulfilled after last night's session! I have never been touched like that before and when we started with just lying looking at each other, gently touching, I thought I would get impatient for the massage to begin. Instead it made me feel more connected and trusting. By the time you invited me to lie on my front to begin, I was sold on your calm, mindful approach to arousing me. Three, intense orgasms later and I already knew I had to book again soon! When my partner came home I told him all about the session and he is keen to pay for more sessions and tells me he has already transferred the money for the next, for me to book when I'm ready! Thank you for coming to London and can we make it twice a month?😏"
"Oh my god, I literally feel like Goddess Kali after our de-armouring session yesterday. I can't thank you enough for spending so much time chatting on Telegram with me (unpaid🫢) before I came. You are so serious about your work, while being so friendly and entertaining too - I think you would make a good comedian, but am lucky you chose sex-work instead: call me selfish!
The way you made me feel so safe and in control of what would happen was the reason I was able to travel from London to your flat, to have you touch me there. I haven't been touched before and so it surprised me that I felt that connection with you, just from texting and a phone conversation. You must be an amazing lover - well jealous of your girlfriend.
The treatment was well prepared and I really felt that you were tailoring it around my needs - serving just me and my inner goddess, unlike my ex-husband who didn't seem to notice she existed!
Your touch was divine and lit up my senses, taking me to a place of sexual arousal and desire I have never felt. You went so deliciously slowly, checking in with me using hand-holds (my favourite kind of connection) and soft words in my ear - just blissful really.
By the time your hands moved to my yoni, I felt it welcome your fingers and draw them in, as though there was a conversation going on down there.
The conversation afterwards showed that you really pay attention to your clients so that you can feed back in exquisite detail, what you noticed about their responses - you are a true prince amongst men James and this lady walked away with a big smile and all sorts of fantasies for 2024!
Asma x"
Email (after Nick returned with wife Jen)
To me
"Hiya James, have a fabulous weekend we are away this weekend, thanks to you we are having a naughty brake[sic] away… we are so looking forward to seeing you in the new year, very likely it will be End of January, hope business is booming for you… Nick"
From me
"Hi Nick and that is such good news! Have a sexy Christmas and see you in the NY.
James x"
Nick:
"I’m very thankful for your service, it’s worked wonders… happy Christmas to you too.. hopefully Jen will Find a new lover over the Christmas party season"
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"I visited James last week and had a fabulous experience, very thoughtful and warm and professional guy, it was so calming and invigorating, and stimulating, I have had other massages before…. But nothing on this level… I’ll definitely be returning for another experience…. Thank you James and definitely be seeing you very soon… Nick"
Via email:
"I first discovered the website back in April and have going back to read it ever since. There is so much information on there and not just about what James does but really good stuff about sex that I had no idea about. I have read everything, including all the blogs. I could see he was passionate about his work!
I finally booked a massage yesterday because I had to find out what he was like; I had started to fantasise about his massages when touching myself in bed! He let me come at short notice the same afternoon, even though the booking system was only showing next day.
I was not disappointed and not only did he gave me the best sensual touch of my life but it was one of the most powerful orgasms too. He knows how to edge you until your whole body is tingling with anticipation.
He is also a very interesting guy (incredibly sexy and attractive too, which helped) and we chatted for ages afterwards."
Via email:
"I booked with James because I struggle to reach orgasm and after reading his website I was sure he could help.
Although I hadn't had a professional erotic massage before, I have had lots of conventional ones and so was entirely happy at the idea of being touched by a stranger whilst naked. A boyfriend had given me what he called "tantric" but I wanted to see what a professional was like. I do webcam sex work on OnlyFans most nights so it might sound daft that I find it difficult but my subscribers are just there for the fantasy and don't care whether I am faking it or not.
When I arrived he was relaxed and welcoming which put me at ease immediately - he isn't some ripped "Adonis" type and I liked that. His flat was tidy, clean and had a good, safe vibe to it. He was well presented with a cheeky smile, good looks and the kind of come-to-bed eyes and neatly-trimmed beard I just can't resist. I asked whether he has many other women my age (27) and he said a few, but most are 40+. Although my urge was to tell him to get his strong, wide hands on my naked body we sat and chatted first, which was actually what I really needed before getting my clothes off and be fully in the zone. My eyes kept scanning his body and I am sure he could tell I was keen to start.
It began with me face-down and James did some pressing all over with a blanket covering me. When his hot hands slowly brushed my shoulders and made their way up my neck and around my ears I shuddered and could feel my pussy tingling.
He progressed slowly, eventually dragging the blanket oh so slowly off me so that I lay deliciously naked and vulnerable before him. Next was a big feather all over me - I couldn't tell what it was at first but boy, was it fantastic. There were various other different devices, each very different but each thrilling to the senses. I was in sensual heaven! The only one I couldn't take was the pin-wheel - too much like torture for me.
It progressed to hot oil poured on my back and between my legs - wow, the hot liquid flowing over my fanny was like nothing I had ever experienced. He did some nice deep tissue work down my back and teasing touches around the tops of my thighs, making me grind my hips again the table.
By the time his hand slipped between my legs to stroke my pussy, I was slick with wetness and happy to let him know that he was doing such a good job. I came twice like that, with hardly a gap between orgasms and then he suggested I turn over. I asked for the blindfold and he slipped it over my head.
James started with some more hot oil, over my chest and between my legs and slowly rubbed up and down my front, circling and tweaking my nipples as he went. I could feel a current go straight to my clit as he played with them. Soon he was back between my legs, expertly massaging everywhere, varying between slow, fast, firm, light - just really tuning in and sometimes asking what I wanted more of. I don't normally like my bum hole touched but this was different because of the way I felt - I wanted his hands to take me everywhere.
As he touched my clit, he pressed his chest against me so I felt pinned to the table - I love that feeling that I am helpless to resist whilst knowing I can completely trust the man. I came even harder this time, body bucking up off the table. James knew exactly how to hit that sweet spot of dominance and trust.
I urge other women to try James - it is the kind of experience you have probably only fantasied about whilst touching yourself. I will be back soon!"
Via email:
"Having experienced two previous sessions with James (2 hands sensual and Nuru) I already knew this was going to be something special. I had responded to a mailshot inviting previous clients to experience a full, four hands sensual massage from James plus assistant, Annie for the price of just James and arrived feeling very excited at what was in store this time!".
On meeting Annie, I instantly felt relaxed in her company - just a normal woman but one entirely in touch with her own sexuality and not triggered by the idea that she was about to get naked alongside James, and me then touch and pleasure me without judgement or holding back. So refreshing and how things should be between men and women in a safe, sensual situation. It turned me on to feel so accepted for who am too.
James and Annie took the time to talk about what would happen and that I could communicate desires at any time - again, not something that I have experienced before, even witrh lovers and I wondered why anything to do with sex tends to be kept secret, even between people we are doing it with sometimes!
The session was delicious from start to finish and having the two of them touch me at the same time was quite different because it made me excitedly curious to know who was doing what. One of the best things is that they communicate with one another all the time so that the touch is never confusing, just intriguing and stimulating - they clearly have a very good sexual connection and find it easy to extend that energy out to a third person so that a feeling of spirtual flow happens. They edged my cock expertly and I was twitchingly hard for god knows how long but just short of ejaculation so that it seems liked I was having an extended orgasm - I can see that, with practice, they could help me to learn how to have multiple orgasms.
James asked me whether I was ready to cum and I nodded - he keeps a close eye on how long the session lasts to that ensure things aren't rushed or going on too long for the client - sometimes you are absolutley ready to release and prolonging it wouldn't work so well. You can trust James to work with you to help you hit your sweet spot!
I came hard and felt it go up to my head and out through my toes. James remarked on how much cum I spurted and I laughed that it was definately down to the situation. Towards the end I was holding James's cock and feeling Annie's wetness whist they expertly massaged my whole genital region and up and down my thighs too which was something quite different for me.
Afterwards, they continued to caress my body all over for what seemed ages - something I had never experienced before and often I have felt sad to be alone on the post-orgasmic glow when lovers assume I don't need any aftercare. They understood exactly what was needed though.
When you book with James, ask him whether Annie is available - she is actually his girlfriend, has a good main job at a property maintenance firm and joins James because she gets something out of it beyond what any financial reward could provide and told me it leaved her feeling relaxed and glowing too."
Note: Although girlfriend is giving me a massage above, yours will be from me.
I will give you a relaxing sensual or tantric massage (say which on the booking form)with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs and desires after absolute agreement between us around our boundaries. All therapeutic massage given is bodywork. It may also include role-play or BDSM if we have discussed and agreed them. Detail them on the booking form.
It is important for me that you remain in a state of conscious, embodied awareness and don't "zone out" because it can make it more difficult to tune into how you are feeling or possibly even know whether you are still able to give informed consent to receive touch. Essentially, I invite you to remain responsive to how I am touching you rather than going into an entirely passive, "star fish" mode on the table😄. The more sounds, movements, verbal feedback and so on that you can provide, the more attuned we will be. This invites more flow and boundary fluidity; the degree to which we are able to adapt to your changing needs and desires.
If I detect that you have gone into a triggered "freeze" state then I will gently end the session and help you to emotionally regulate. This hasn't happened during a session yet and I want to reassure you I won't just carry on regardless.
It will take place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in my warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). You may have a shower first. I'll leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I will be guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I'll encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there will be 3 stages, split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
1. Trust And Relaxation
The first phase will be about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You'll be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I'll begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I'll remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses.
Now, hot coconut oil will be gently applied, and I'll give a bodywork full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They will be firm but not deep tissue.
There can be body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There will be sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it won't be fully erotic at this stage.
2. Build Arousal
I'll reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I'll continue with bodywork massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation will become more vigorous with techniques** intended to simulate sex. For women, you may have an orgasm but it's not the goal. For men I'll careful not to go to level 7(the point of no return) yet and keep you just at the edge. As a women, if you have climaxed, you probably need to be left alone, covered for a bit.
3. Calm and Build Again
After checking you are ready to continue, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses and I will ask you about this.
I will now work on the front of your body as you choose and that may include breast and nipple play. I can do some face and neck massage if you like and will work on your legs. I will hold your hand and check in with you before gradually moving towards your genital area and my intuition and your responses such as you squeezing my hand back. You are always in control of what I am doing and it is your choice as to whether you touch me and where. Touching me back is an important aspect for most clients as they become aroused and it should not be seen as something I am offering for my own gratification.
I can finish with leaving alone/cuddling/hand-holding/gentle wiping - whatever you need to feel cared for.
**Certain aspects are limited by your "Intimacy Level" when you book.
#organised #confident #skilled
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