I attune to you so that that intimacy flows
Sensual massage and sex coaching for all in Brighton
- 2 hands male(£90+)
- 4 hands MF(£180+)
- BDSM(£70+)
- Massage my volunteer(£130+)
- Non-genital massage(£50)
You are probably not physically attuning to your partner(s)
Does your sex life leave room for improvement?
Most of us spend our lives sexually unfulfilled. It starts with a useless sex education that teaches about procreation, not pleasure, then we fill in the gaps with society's shameful, homophobic, monogamous judgements and think that porn is how real sex looks. Come to a professional who will demonstrate how attuned sex should feel so that you can seek it out with others. Bring a partner or friend for free, so you can each practice giving pleasure alongside me(extended sessions available on request).
Through attuned, mindful touch, I will show you how relaxed, embodied, sensual pleasure improves your whole life, perhaps for the first time. Your sex life won't be the same again and you will feel desirable and confident in your own skin. Attunement with someone starts before you have sex and is about keying into physical cues given by a partner or partners. When you see two dancers moving as one, they are attuned, and it is the same with intimacy.
Women can struggle to come during sex because of sensitive emotional "brakes" that need turning off. You often aren't given the emotional security and time to relax and desire sex by partners. I show you how foreplay should feel and that you should not be focused on your orgasm. If you relax, it will emerge with my touch.
Many men struggle because of an emotional disconnect with their penis, which leads to performance anxiety, impotence and premature ejaculation. Viagra is usually a sticking plaster over emotional anxiety. I aim to make you feel more connected with your whole body and help you deal with those issues. Ejaculatory orgasm is not my main aim but very likely at the moment I choose if you relax. Most male clients identify as "straight" but can't contain their excitement at my touch - it does not necessarily indicate that you are gay but that you have much in common with others.
Of course, you may just be after a damn good time that can include some light BDSM if you choose. Whatever the case, lie back and enjoy the sensual journey in my "magic hands"(See @Sally Lunn 9/9/20).
As a SkinMap client, get access to exclusive content in the VIP Area of the site including the exclusive SkinMap Telegram group. Become part of a community of non-threatening, like-minded, sex-positive folk.
#foreveryone
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life-transforming - boost your sexual confidence
Why would I have a professional sensual massage?🤷
- I need to be more sexually confident and be a better lover for my current or next relationship
- I need to rebuild my confidence in intimate situations with men
- I need to explore my sexuality
- I desire to explore touch from someone of my own sex
- I need to explore my fantasies(in secret?)
- We desire to experience the thrill of watching her/him with another man/woman(cuckold)
- **I desire to try role-play and/or BDSM e.g. Make it a doctor's appointment, try cuffs, blindfolding, spanking, ball-gagging, dirty language. Ask me to spank, lie on, scald or tease you. Nothing you request is shameful because acting out a real-life sexual taboo in a safe, controlled setting with someone you trust is trauma-healing and exciting for most. Sensory deprivation alone often heightens arousal.
- We need to explore involving a third in our partnership🧑🤝🧑🕺
- We need to learn to better pleasure one another
- I desire no strings, skilled sensual touch and Tinder dates suck
- I need to rediscover my sensuality away from the stresses and demands of home(Has parenting taken over your life?) 😩
- I need more consistency as my romantic partner runs "hot and cold" when I ask for sensual touch
- I need to overcome controlling religious rules about having sexual touch 😇
- I need to learn more about my sensual self with a safe professional
- I desire a massage to go "all the way"
- I desire to overcome my inability to orgasm(anorgasmia)
- I need to get over my body image concerns about feeling comfortable naked
- I need to address my impotence or premature ejaculation issues
- I need to be able to ask for pleasure and set boundaries directly, without embarrassment or shame
- I desire to experience prostate massage and multiple orgasms for men
- *I desire to try sex toys such as vibrating cock rings, The Doxy Die Cast, and glass dildos from your selection(sterilised)
- *I desire to experience elements of Tantric Massage by introducing things such as ritual, eye-gazing and synchronised breath
*Must be requested on your booking form.
**Kinks to be requested on your booking form so we can agree details before your session. Can only be realised within the context of your massage and I will only introduce elements we have agreed upon. You can use an agreed "safe word" to stop the scene and revert to regular sensual massage.
Think of a desire as something you crave rather than need and I get a better idea of how I can help. We can discuss what is wanted to achieve them when you book.
#mostvaluabletherapyavailable
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Professional, sex-positive, HEDONISTIC and trustworthy
Why with you?
- For women, in particular, I am acutely aware of trauma triggers around male touch and my sensual massage will help you to overcome major obstacles to dating and intimacy. Female clients have reported feeling able to date more confidently and enjoy sex again
- Praised as a natural by top-rated UK trainer after witnessing my 1st ever massage on Cee Cee.
- People need to feel safe when taking any kind of massage, and I have a track record backed by testimonials and have attended embodied intimacy workshops in Berlin with Rachel and Buster of Embodied Intimacy.
- Possibly only therapist in Brighton who works with all genders and orientations alike. Importantly, I do not discriminate against single men by denying them access to my treatments(as some Tantric masseuses do). We are all equally entitled to sensual touch and exclusion reinforces negative stereotypes in society by adding to the damaging and prevailing gossip that "men are not to be trusted" in any intimate situation. No wonder there is such hysteria and distrust by women and men alike.
- You appreciate that getting an excellent sensual massage is more important than the sex of the giver
- Approachable, safe, easy-going father, with partner who supports work.👫
- No body judgement - you will feel comfortable naked with me
- I handle any impulses to have sex during your session with skill, restraint and emotional maturity
- Mine is an humanistic service and not based upon other people's spiritual beliefs
- Introductory services can feel less threatening for a first timer
- Our boundary agreement is set when you book🗞️
- I apply the science of sex and desire
- Top professionals choose me to work with
- I will not associate with professionals who I don't respect and trust
- Vaccinated with Pfizer jab💉
- Brighton is the perfect dirty weekend getaway🤭🚘🚂
- Get access to exclusive content and the private Telegram group in the VIP Area🕶️
My testimony from Cee Cee shows the desire she felt for me: We very quickly connected emotionally and she thrilled as her naked body was revealed to me then trusted me to touch her intimately, leading to multiple powerful orgasms. For only the second time in her life, she felt completely relaxed in a man's hands. In this interview with Cosmopolitan, she explains how having sensual massages transformed her body and sexual confidence.
Only book the intimacy service you are comfortable with:
- Bodywork massage with no intent of genital arousal(choose sensual or pain relief). I wear just pants, touch me anywhere except genitals
- Introductory: Sensual bodywork plus intentional external genital arousal.
- Standard: Introductory plus internal(pussy and/or bum)
- Interact: Standard plus I/we(4 hands) are naked and touch my/our genitals too
I will create the sexual desire you need to orgasm. My ability to respect boundaries and keep the space safe for us is key to trust, relaxation and success.
Having a self-serious "tantra guru" or "adonis" therapist can stop some people from establishing an emotional connection because they are not "showing you" their true selves. You don't feel comfortable making yourself vulnerable and so may not fully relax as they touch you, emotionally blocking your orgasm. Female clients generally experience a few, intense orgasms because you connect->trust->relax->desire alongside physical arousal. Your orgasms are more about you intensely desiring my touch than being aroused or me touching you. The chain starts the moment I greet you. A sensual massage booking with me is, primarily an experience rather than a therapy.
Instead, we can role-play these serious stereotypes with agreement so it becomes a hot fantasy scene where we are connected - do you see the difference? It will then be relaxed, naughty, light-hearted, fantastic, passionate, slippery fun. With me, you will feel free to giggle, laugh, swear, squeal, groan, moan, writhe, shake and buck. It becomes your space to let go and unleash your sensual, raw, hedonistic self without shame or guilt.
I am not sexual trauma trained and so if you think there is a risk that the session will bring up serious emotional pain, I would ask that you visit a therapist specifically trained to deal with such issues instead. However, it is of course an emotional experience and expression is welcome; I am a well-balanced and emotionally literate man and happy to cuddle and soothe but not to give talking therapy.
For sensual massage without sex✅ or over-seriousness✅, backed by testimonials✅, book with me.
Read more about me
#skilled #experienced #ethical #honest #fun
Because James is licenced to thrill
Embodied intimacy workshops(I'm in the red shorts)
Weekend workshop, Berlin, August 2020
Weekend workshop, Berlin, October 2020
What I'll do to excite you 🤗
You just lie back and receive - I'll do the work
I will give you a relaxing sensual massage with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs and desires after absolute agreement between us around our boundaries. All therapeutic massage given is bodywork. It may also include role-play or BDSM if we have discussed and agreed them. Detail them on the booking form.
You will be naked, allowing free-flowing and sensual strokes to the whole body.
It will take place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in my warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). You may have a shower first. I'll leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I will be guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I'll encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there will be 3 stages, split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
- Trust And Relaxation.
- Build Arousal.
- Calm And Build Again.
1. Trust And Relaxation
The first phase will be about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You'll be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I'll begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I'll remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses.
Now, hot coconut oil will be gently applied, and I'll give a bodywork full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They will be firm but not deep tissue.
There can be body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There will be sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it won't be fully erotic at this stage.
2. Build Arousal
I'll reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I'll continue with bodywork massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation will become more vigorous with techniques** intended to simulate sex. For women, you may have an orgasm but it's not the goal. For men I'll careful not to go to level 7(the point of no return) yet and keep you just at the edge. As a women, if you have climaxed, you probably need to be left alone, covered for a bit.
3. Calm and Build Again
After checking you are ready to continue, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses and I will ask you about this.
I will now work on the front of your body as you choose and that may include breast and nipple play. I can do some face and neck massage if you like and will work on your legs. I will hold your hand and check in with you before gradually moving towards your genital area and my intuition and your responses such as you squeezing my hand back. You are always in control of what I am doing and it is your choice as to whether you touch me and where. Touching me back is an important aspect for most clients as they become aroused and it should not be seen as something I am offering for my own gratification.
I can finish with leaving alone/cuddling/hand-holding/gentle wiping - whatever you need to feel cared for.
**Certain aspects are limited by your "Intimacy Level" booking choice:
- Bodywork with no intent of genital arousal(choose sensual or pain relief). I wear just pants, touch me anywhere except genitals
- Introductory: Sensual bodywork plus intentional external genital arousal
- Standard: Introductory plus internal(pussy and/or bum)
- Interact: Standard plus I/we(4 hands) are naked and touch my/our genitals too
#organised #confident #skilled
Still curious?
You may still have questions about what sensual massage is and how it compares with Tantric Massage and prostitution.
It is important to know the differences before choosing your professional.
Prices and availability
The online booking page already provides service prices and up-to-date availability. To avoid unnecessary effort, please contact me with questions not already dealt with on the site. Thanks, James x