It improves body image, makes us feel desired and bonds relationships.
"This was my first sensual massage with a qualified and experienced masseur. I was quite nervous initially, but James put me at ease through his very down to earth attitude and Karisma. James used a mixture of strokes and toys to enhance the experience... "
"I was fortunate enough to enjoy a sensual massage with James recently and would recommend to all. James was attentive, enthusiastic and skilled. He made a great effort to put us both at ease to ensure our experience was the best it could be and was able to take me into a zone of pleasure that lasted for around 2 hours... "
A sensitive and emotionally-balanced man with particular focus on what makes men and women the same rather than different. I am very good at generating pleasure by gradually encouraging subjective arousal(response to the situation and environment) alongside physical(genital) arousal. I provide both the relaxing context and sexual anticipation needed for your orgasm to emerge without any effort on your part - something life-changing that you can introduce to your sexual partnerships outside of our therapy.
There is no "typical" pathway to desire and arousal and indeed, one can happen without the other. Women have a much narrower overlap between the two so although physical arousal is actually easier for them, subjective arousal is more elusive without the right context. It is called non-concordence and is much misunderstood.
I am about to undertake professional conventional bodyworks massage training with Jing Avanced Massage Training in Brighton, and will partner next year with Lucy "Kaly" Miller to produce workshops in Brighton. Most of my experience has been gained through massages given subsequently.
My female workshop volunteer during training remarked that I am a natural giver and contacted me directly to come for further massages. High praise indeed, considering she clearly rated me over her very experienced current masseur.
So called masseurs who take from clients for their own sexual pleasure during sessions typically include such extras as mutual oral and/or penetrative sex which is in fact an abuse of power in what is a position of emotional vulnerability for a great many people who choose to have a sensual massage. It can scar for life and set a client back in their journey of sensual healing. It also risks setting up an inappropriate attachment to the masseur who may then use that to financially benefit him/herself.
My service is very firmly rooted in sensuality as opposed to sexuality and does not seek to abuse that agreement. During your massage I do not allow arousing touch of my own body and only use my hands on yours.
I am comfortable with massaging people of ages 18 to 60 and any sexual orientation. For my own physical safety and to meet the maximum rating of my massage table, I am unfortunately unable to offer you a massage if you weigh greater than 96kg. I realise that this may be disappointing but there will be other therapists who can give you the wonderful experience you deserve.
As a SkinMap client, you will be invited to join the private Telegram group and become part of a community of like-minded, sex-positive folk.
I would be very happy to discretely chat with you via email initially and/or have a phone call using the secure Telegram app which doesn't expose phone numbers or real names.
A relaxing, sensual massage with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs, desires after absolute agreement between us around our bounderies.
You are naked, allowing free-flowing and sensual strokes to the whole body.
It takes place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in a warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). Have a shower and even a soak in the hot tub - it's a chance to chat and get comfortable first. I leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I am mostly guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there are 3 phases split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
Trust And Relaxation.
Calm And Build Again.
1. Trust And Relaxation
The first phase is about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You will be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses. Hot stones will be applied at various points throughout.
Now, hot oil is applied(normally unrefined coconut or rapeseed), and I give a Swedish style full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They can be firm but generally not deep tissue.
There can body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There is sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it is not fully erotic at this stage.
2. Build Arousal
I reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I continue with Swedish style massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation becomes more vigorous with some techniques, intended to simulate sex and give the feeling of being pinned down. Being face down allows the imagination to fantasise.
Tuning into your level of arousal I give inside stimulation too, including G spot/penis massage. For women, It's usual for there to be an orgasm now but it's never the goal. I finish by covering you with a towel and give you a couple of minutes to allow arousal to subside before turning over.
3. Calm and Build Again
After checking you are okay, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses.
Back to therapeutic massage whilst arousal subsides. I massage your shoulders, chest/breasts, and do a gentle belly massage.
Sliding the towel off, I massage your legs, lifting for thighs and again brushing between your legs to start building your arousal again. With plenty of warm oil, I massage all areas between your legs and begin more intense clitoral/penile. If desired, I'll give internal massage, stimulating G/PS/P spots which can result in one or more(if you are a woman) orgasms. I will keep going as long as it's pleasurable for you.
I finish by covering you with a towel while arousal subsides and you relax again, finishing with a foot, face and head massage to finish as you desire.
I'll leave the room for you to relax, before getting up and dressed, taking a shower if you wish.
I can travel to you with my fold up table within a 10 mile radius of Brighton: Lewes, Newhaven, Seaford, Worthing and Shoreham by Sea are all within my range.
If you choose to have your massage in my flat (15 mins from Brighton Station) we can start with a relaxing soak in the hot tub.
If you live in London, then my doorstep is just 1.5 hours from Victoria or London Bridge by train. Make it a day/night out (with partner?) , by the sea.
If you would prefer to chat in a call or real-time text, then you can do so from your phone using the secure Telegram app which does not expose either of our phone numbers or your real name, if you chose.
Install Telegram here, then use the "Ask a Question" Contact Form above/left to ask for my Telegram username.
Brighton, United Kingdom
Ask about any customisation you fantasise about including involving a second person you know.
At my smart, relaxing flat with a 40 degree hot tub start, or your location with my mobile massage kit. If you are not quite ready for the most intimate elements, a reduced time option is available that focuses more on theraputic massage.
Your partner is welcome join me half way in, to make it a mind-blowing 4 hands with my expert guidance in arousal and masturbation techniques. No extra cost.
At the right time and place, there is the right porn for how you are feeling but it can be so fiddly and frustrating navigating sites like PornHub that you have lost the moment.
Anna at FrolicMe has done a brilliant job at producing and presenting a collection of beautiful porn and erotic fiction with compelling stories and made it easy to quickly find and watch when you need it most.
Have fun discussing it with your partner when you are both feeling fruity then make it the backdrop for a steamy session.
It's been reported that both men and women have more and better-quality sex when single but I'm not going to judge that.
Woman have a much stronger genetic urge for multiple partners, and frequently need freedom and variety to be satisfied.
They have a very different path to arousal and most secretly(often!) enjoy erotic fantasy about strangers and "rough" sex. Both sexes have fantasies that combine vaginal/anal and oral sex simultaneously (spit-roast), often with multiple people (gang bang). Men and especially women sometimes like to be blindfolded and bound during sex. There is no shame in living out these fantasies in a consentual setting.
Women can quickly get bored of sex with the same partner.
Men have a much stronger genetic urge for monogamy, but are happy to share their partner(s) and generally like to be involved.
Contrary to popular belief, men are highly sensitive to perceived rejection and are especially aroused by knowing how much someone enjoys their body.
Their biggest turn-on is seeing them watching him whilst sucking his cock and tasting him.
A very common shared male and female fantasy is for him to watch his partner having sex with a stranger or friend (and sometimes unable to see who it is): Cuckoldry. He becomes more horny and produces more semen.
Exciting photo isn't it? That's because it's in our DNA to have non-monogamous sex.
1 in 4 people you know have enjoyed it at least once and many are at it still so what are you waiting for? You must ensure you are both equally committed, if you have a partner.
If you are a sensual masseur and would like to benefit from my reach and branding, I would be happy to consider your proposition.
It might be a collaboration in Brighton to provide 4 hands massages or to expand your offering when you cannot satisfy a request.
It might be a dedicated page on the site and access to the booking system so that you can readily attract business in your area. You will benefit from my branding, reputation and Search Engine Optimisation (SEO) skills so that you appear high up in Google Searches for "Sensual Massage <your location here>".
Your booking page could look like mine, but with your branded photo and so on. It has a comprehensive back end system that knows your availability and takes a deposit, removing booked slots from your calendar and emailing and SMS texting a confirmation to both you and the client.
The client can manage their own booking, and move it to a new slot, if required. The £25 deposit becomes my commission and you take the balance on the day. A reminder is automatically sent to the client by text and email 3 hours prior to the appointment.