Sensual awakenings since 2019
Conscious erotic massage in Brighton
I hold a safe, trusting space guided by The Wheel of Consent® so your body and mind fully accept my caring, sensual touch
Massage For Thoughtful Pleasure-seekers
Progressive. Shame-free. Seedy-free.
Beyond the “Happy Ending” — This is Sacred Sensuality
This is not just about release. It’s about being truly seen, deeply felt, and honoured in your wholeness—by someone attuned to the subtle dance of sexual energy, embodiment, and conscious connection.
I offer intuitive, full-body tantric-inspired sessions that meet you exactly where you are. No pressure. No performance. Just presence. Breath. Energy. Touch that listens and responds.
Together, we create a space where you can soften into your body, awaken your senses, and perhaps gently explore the fantasies or longings that have been waiting to be welcomed.
A clear Information & Consent process sets the tone—inviting mutual respect, emotional clarity, and trust. This is why I attract clients who value emotional intelligence, personal sovereignty, and the deep authenticity that conscious sensuality makes possible.
Would your partner be jealous?
Janet and Dossie say the following about overcoming jealousy in their worldwide best-seller, "The Ethical Slut":
"The challenge comes in learning to establish within yourself a strong foundation of safety in your relationship that is not dependent on sexual exclusivity. This difficult work is part of a larger question of how to grasp your personal power and learn to understand and love yourselves without another person to validate you."
Services
Finest erotic services in Sussex
Genital touch, 18+ and guided by The Wheel Of Consent®.
We invite connection with a heart-opening ritual, then a sacred, mindful massage that awakens presence.
For Women
When relaxation is present, the body softens. Emotional resistance gives way to deep surrender, opening the door to pleasure.
For Men
Shifting attention away from performance reconnects with sensitivity. Away from pressure - towards flow.
This is receiving with awareness—a gateway to more empowered, embodied intimacy in every area of life.
Book solo (maybe bring a lover/friend (F.O.C.)?)
Sensual or tantric (90 minutes)
£90-£150
Full-length sexual massage and/or kink-exploration (see below). Usually incorporates a yoni/lingam massage.
Book below:
After booking, I ask you to choose your "vibe" and give consent here. For example:
- tantric🧞
- cuckold👁 (partner F.O.C.)
- bi-curious❓
- fantasy role-play🧛
- impact play🤚
- kink/bdsm and toys🪢
- Touch me👐
- Hot stones🪨
All details as per the previous service except from 2 capable men.
Collaborator Dom has been offering high-quality bodywork in Brighton for some time and his approach aligns perfectly with mine—grounded in care, clarity, and genuine sensual presence.
We can be naked, at your request. This service not available as out-call.
Accommodation
Why not stay over in my flat above?
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As holiday-home host since 2021, you can book one or more nights right above my home (where I give your massage).
Availability can be limited, especially at weekends and in the Summer but the convenience (as my sensual client) may convince you it is worth choosing an available hosting night.
Conventional massage
Nakedness optional, 16+ and no genital touch
Proper massage (naked or not) with no genital touch😇.
I am a trained Jing deep-tissue bodywork therapist.
Can incorporate hot stones.
Choose either of
- Jing deep tissue, pain-relief massage (book video consultation online).
- Sensual touch
If 18+ you may upgrade to one of the erotic services during your session (subject to having additional money and my being available for any time extension).
Information (incl. age) and consent requested online after booking request.
Looking for novelty?
According to research, we all have sexual fantasies we want to realise
Many feel shame about having sex fantasies and they remain unexplored except during masturbation. Clients sometimes share them with me for the 1st time and maybe you recognise these most common themes?
- More than two: Both sexes have at least entertained the idea of a threesome
- Power, control, and rough: Rough sex involving spanking, hot wax, restraints, biting, and other dom/sub acts rate highly for many
- Changing things up: It can help reignite the spark in a long-term relationship
- Taboo circumstances: Rule-breaking and the risk of getting caught
- Open relationships: Similar to threesome, the idea of opening up a relationship
- Passion and romance: Meaningful sex that makes you feel desired (and good in bed)
- Same-sex encounters, gender-bending, and erotic flexibility
For my sensual massage in Brighton clients, "Taboo circumstances" and "same-sex encounter" fantasies are top for many. For couples massages, "more than two" and "changing things up" are always important. Everyone needs to experience 4 hands on them at least once; you are just introducing my skilled hands and guidance to your relationship for a couple of hours..
All are welcome, and maybe you are a bi-curious man, sexually-bored wife, curious about BDSM, or a couple looking for a threesome massage experience without full sex, just yet?
Discover more about fantasies by listening to expert Dr Justin Lehmiller.
Jealousy Into Joy
If you've read The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, you’ll know it’s a goldmine of wisdom around navigating jealousy, freedom, and intimacy.
Agreements are only sound if they are understood
The best sessions happen when clients share their desires
Dear sensual explorer,
Memorable sexual experiences are mindful, relaxed and trusting.
Although we are not going to "have sex", it is a sexual experience so hear what Justin Lehmiller and Gabrielle say about good casual sex. It applies to our session because its about communicating authentically during intimacy.
Initiating "doing stuff" will be hornier for you, because you will explore boundary-fluidity instead of only accepting my suggestions. For example, you might say "Can you gently tug and blow on my ears?", "I would like you to watch me undress to the Pink Panther theme" or "My feet are cold, please can you put something over them?". You are guiding me in what you desire, moment-by-moment.
Taking pleasure from touching me is allowed and it doesn't have to be sexual. For example, you might ask "Can I run my fingers over your chest hair?" or I might offer "Would you like to embrace my waist?" . I encourage you to take it gradually at first and see where it takes us in conscious connection, checking-in about how it is flowing for both. The bottom line is that if I grant access to my body then it is agreed, and primarily for your pleasure.
What happens at SkinMap stays in SkinMap, by which I mean I will not identify you personally to anyone. Please do tell all to your friends and leave me a review on Google Business or send me one to post anonymously here😍
Reading this stuff might feel uncomfortable if you're not that sex-positive yet but stick with it. There are three overall themes (change your mind, even during the session):
- No domination (the default): You want me to check-in with you as we go, making offers and you making requests as it progresses.This works best if you looking for a very conscious experience and are less submissive by nature because you will be directing me (to an extent); up to you how you feel on the day and you can switch between the two.
- Healing: (a check-box): You want a massage that is more about helping you feel more connected and confident, perhaps after experiencing something unhelpful in the past that has left you feeling sexually disconnected and/or anxious. There is a bit more here.
- Domination (a check-box): The idea of submitting to me turns you on. We agree how that needs to look so you feel safe and cared for still. We will certainly agree a safe word that isn't "Stop" but something I wouldn't expect to hear such as "Cactus" or whatever. People often combine it with exploring kinks, role-play or impact-play. It is important to note that this is not full domination. I will enjoy doing it, but our intention is not a gift of pleasure for me.
If you find nerves are getting in the way, try this embodiment exercise to overcome them. It is normal for new clients to have this shadow reaction to a novel, vulnerable experience. However, this is your personal, journey of erotic exploration and discovery and nothing except your own judgement can prevent you from embracing it.
I write erotica occasionally so maybe have a read first, if that kind of thing fires up your naughty imagination. Be warned that very little is massage-related, and is mostly hedonistic, filthy, sexual fantasy using very "taboo" language I think gives it "edge"🤪. We all have unexplored fantasies and this might be your chance to realise a few.
See you soon at mine or yours (by prior agreement),
James x
P.S. Take a look at the "What vibe do you desire?" section on the form now for a preview of my "sensual menu of delights".
What I'll do to excite you 🤗
Top-level summary
I will give you a relaxing sensual or tantric massage with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs and desires after absolute agreement between us around our boundaries. All therapeutic massage given is bodywork. It may also include role-play or BDSM if we have discussed and agreed them. By the time you arrive, I will understand there things from your Information & Consent Form, and then reconfirm face-to-face.
Watch a video where my girlfriend gives me a massage. Yours will be from me, not her.
It is important for me that you remain in a state of conscious, embodied awareness and don't "zone out" because it can make it more difficult to tune into how you are feeling. The more attuned we are, the better I'm able to respond to your changing needs and desires and, importantly, remain in agreement.
It will take place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in my warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). You may have a shower first. I'll leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I will be guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I'll encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there will be 3 stages, split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
- Trust And Relaxation
- Build Arousal
- Calm And Build Again
Stage 1: Trust And Relaxation
The first phase will be about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You'll be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I'll begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I'll remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses.
Now, hot coconut oil will be gently applied, and I'll give a bodywork full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They will be firm but not deep tissue.
There can be body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There will be sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it won't be fully erotic at this stage.
Stage 2: Build arousal
I'll reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I'll continue with bodywork massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation will become more vigorous with techniques** intended to simulate sex. For women, you may have an orgasm but it's not the goal. For men I'll careful not to go to level 7 (the point of no return) yet and keep you just at the edge. As a women, if you have climaxed, you probably need to be left alone, covered for a bit.
Stage 3: Calm and build again
After checking you are ready to continue, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses and I will ask you about this.
I will now work on the front of your body as you choose and that may include breast and nipple play. I can do some face and neck massage if you like and will work on your legs. I will hold your hand and check in with you before gradually moving towards your genital area and my intuition and your responses such as you squeezing my hand back. You are always in control of what I am doing and it is your choice as to whether you touch me and where. Touching me back is an important aspect for most clients as they become aroused and it should not be seen as something I am offering for my own gratification.
Afterwards
I can finish with leaving alone/cuddling/hand-holding/gentle wiping - whatever you need to feel cared for.
**Certain aspects are limited by your "Intimacy Level" when you book.