Safe sexual pleasure since 2020
Where Touch Becomes a Conversation
A grounded, attuned experience that invites your body to soften, open, and rediscover its natural sensual rhythm.
Deep Presence Meets Transformational Touch
Beyond Technique
I offer a form of embodied connection that goes far beyond technique.
Through six years of dedicated somatic practice, I’ve developed a rare ability to read your nervous system with precision — sensing micro-shifts in breath, emotion, and energy to meet you at exactly the right depth, pace, and tone.
My work creates a safe space where you can soften, open, and reconnect with the natural intelligence of your body.
Many clients describe this as the first time they’ve truly felt seen, safe, and fully in their own sensuality.
This is not about performance or pressure.
It is an intimate, attuned, co-created experience that invites relaxation, trust, and genuine pleasure — grounded in clarity, ethics, and emotional presence.
If you’re seeking a practitioner who understands the subtle language of the body, honours boundaries, and offers touch as a transformative, healing, and deeply human experience, you are in the right place.
My favourite client quotes
“I’ve never relaxed this quickly with anyone before.” — L., 42
"I walked in nervous and expecting to be self-conscious. But within minutes my whole body just… softened.
It felt like he could read what I needed before I even said it.
I’ve never experienced touch that felt this respectful and intoxicating at the same time."
“It felt like my body remembered something it had forgotten.” — A., 36
"The session was nothing like I imagined. Not rushed, not performative.
Just this slow unfolding where my body went from guarded to deeply alive.
I left feeling reconnected to a part of myself I thought was gone."
“I’ve had therapy for years — this reached something talking never has.” — M., 49
"This wasn’t just erotic touch. It was presence."
He listens with his whole body, and you feel it.
I came out calmer, clearer, and more in tune with myself than I’ve felt in months.
“The most attuned lover I’ve ever experienced.” — S., 31
"I genuinely didn’t know it was possible to feel this seen.
Everything was consensual, responsive, and tuned to me.
It wasn’t about performance — it was about connection.
I left in tears (the good kind)."
“I finally understood what it means to feel safe while being sexual.” — R., 45
"For me, sex usually comes with tension.
But with James, my nervous system settled almost instantly.
That safety made everything so much more pleasurable.
It was the first time I’ve had an erotic experience with absolutely no fear."
“He helped me find pleasure in my own body again.” — D., 54
"After menopause I honestly thought that part of my life was over.
But something about the combination of his intuition and the way he listens brought me back to myself.
I left feeling radiant — and hopeful."
“My partner and I had our first truly connected erotic experience together.” — J & P, 38 & 40
"We booked as a couple, not knowing what to expect.
James held the most respectful, safe space for both of us.
We learned how to touch each other differently, how to slow down, how to feel again.
It brought us closer than we’ve been in years."
“I felt empowered, not objectified.” — K., 33
"As a woman, erotic spaces can sometimes feel like they’re built for men.
This felt like the opposite.
My boundaries were honoured, my ‘no’ was welcomed, my ‘yes’ felt celebrated.
I left feeling powerful in my own skin."
Where pleasure flows... safely
In my world, erotic touch isn’t just safe - it’s thrilling because it’s safe.
The flow of pleasure? It’s yours. My hands are here to serve your body, your desires. That’s the gift. The SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service© is our playful compass for knowing exactly where we stand... so we can go deliciously deep.
How it works:
I’ll make offers. You’ll make requests.
About how I touch you.
About how you might want to touch me.
It’s all on the table, with spark and sovereignty.
The only rules?
✨ Every offer is met with gratitude, not pressure
✨ Every request is welcome - just not expected
✨ We don’t do rejection here - only sexy, honest negotiation
There’s no guessing, no awkwardness, just a slow dance of "yes", "no", and "mmm… maybe."
We’ll go over the details in my Information & Consent Form because what’s hotter than feeling completely free to explore?
Transparency is key
My transparent approach helps reduce anxiety, ensures smoother appointments, and empowers you to make confident, informed decisions about your care. Here to support you at every stage, with open communication and clear guidance tailored to your needs.
Services
Finest erotic massages in Sussex
Genital touch, 18+ and guided by The Wheel Of Consent®.
We invite connection with a heart-opening ritual, then a sacred, mindful massage that awakens presence.
For Women
When relaxation is present, the body softens. Emotional resistance gives way to deep surrender, opening the door to pleasure.
For Men
Shifting attention away from performance reconnects with sensitivity. Away from pressure - towards flow.
This is receiving with awareness—a gateway to more empowered, embodied intimacy in every area of life.
Book solo (maybe bring a lover/friend (F.O.C.)?)
Sensual or tantric (90 minutes)
£90-£150
Full-length sexual massage and/or kink-exploration (see below). Usually incorporates a yoni/lingam massage.
Book below:
Read "Room Service" if you are interested in me visiting you.
After booking, I ask you to choose your "vibe" and give consent here. For example:
- tantric🧞
- cuckold👁 (partner F.O.C.)
- bi-curious❓
- fantasy role-play🧛
- impact play🤚
- kink/bdsm and toys🪢
- Touch me👐
- Hot stones🪨
Accommodation
Why not stay over in my flat above?
£variable
As holiday-home host since 2021, you can book one or more nights right above my home (where I give your massage).
Availability can be limited, especially at weekends and in the Summer but the convenience (as my sensual client) may convince you it is worth choosing an available hosting night.
Conventional massage
Nakedness optional, 16+ and no genital touch
Proper massage (naked or not) with no genital touch😇.
I am a trained Jing deep-tissue bodywork therapist.
Can incorporate hot stones.
Choose either of
- Jing deep tissue, pain-relief massage (book video consultation online).
- Sensual touch
If 18+ you may upgrade to one of the erotic services during your session (subject to having additional money and my being available for any time extension).
Deeper Integration
For existing clients only
Erotic Awareness Ceremony (2 or 3 hours)
£200 or £300
Boyond massage. More than sex. This is a sacred, sensual experience designed to awaken your full erotic self, with reverence, care, and precision. Our process is:
- You are a past client
- You have a recent, clear STI test you can show
- We agree we want to do this
- Opening ceremony to connect and set intentions🙏
- Explore erotic and energetic connection for 2 or 3 hours🫠🔥
- Closing ceremony to honour what was created🙏
Information (incl. age) and consent requested online after booking request.
Looking for novelty?
According to research, we all have sexual fantasies we want to realise
Many feel shame about having sex fantasies and they remain unexplored except during masturbation. Clients sometimes share them with me for the 1st time and maybe you recognise these most common themes?
- More than two: Both sexes have at least entertained the idea of a threesome
- Power, control, and rough: Rough sex involving spanking, hot wax, restraints, biting, and other dom/sub acts rate highly for many
- Changing things up: It can help reignite the spark in a long-term relationship
- Taboo circumstances: Rule-breaking and the risk of getting caught
- Open relationships: Similar to threesome, the idea of opening up a relationship
- Passion and romance: Meaningful sex that makes you feel desired (and good in bed)
- Same-sex encounters, gender-bending, and erotic flexibility
For my sensual massage in Brighton clients, "Taboo circumstances" and "same-sex encounter" fantasies are top for many. For couples massages, "more than two" and "changing things up" are always important. Everyone needs to experience 4 hands on them at least once; you are just introducing my skilled hands and guidance to your relationship for a couple of hours..
All are welcome, and maybe you are a bi-curious man, sexually-bored wife, curious about BDSM, or a couple looking for a threesome massage experience without full sex, just yet?
Discover more about fantasies by listening to expert Dr Justin Lehmiller.
Jealousy Into Joy
If you've read The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, you’ll know it’s a goldmine of wisdom around navigating jealousy, freedom, and intimacy.
SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service©
Agreements For Erotic Massage Are Unique
This visual emerged after many hours of reflection, practice, and deep inquiry into how Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent could evolve to honour the unique dynamics of erotic massage.
As a practitioner, I’ve long observed that many clients, after experiencing the safety, presence, and sensual depth of an embodied session, feel an organic desire not just to receive touch, but to give it in return. Not in a transgressive or boundary-pushing way, but as a natural expression of mutual connection and trust.
Yet the original Wheel of Consent didn’t quite accommodate this space. It was built around polarity:someone gives, someone receives. In erotic massage, where connection deepens and roles can gently shift, something else was needed to honour the fact that everything is for the client's pleasure.
This version centres the two-way flow of erotic touch, grounded in the understanding that intention and agreement shape everything. The four quadrants remain rooted in consent principles, but they allow for a more mutual and co-created experience:
- Give Gift: The therapist offers touch for the client's benefit.
- Take Gift: The client offers touch for their own enjoyment, with clear agreement.
- Receive Gift: The client accepts touch that is offered for their pleasure.
- Allow Gift: The therapist permits the client to touch, in service of the client’s experience.
What changes here is clarity of invitation. Every action is framed by mutual consent, named and known in advance. The therapist never owes receptivity, but can choose to receive touch with sovereignty and presence.
The client is never expected to give touch, but is empowered to, when it arises from genuine desire and shared agreement.
The diagram describes the following agreements
I can make offers, and you requests about:
- How you are touched
- How I am touched
And ethics imply:
- Offers responded to with gratitude
- Requests made without expectation
- Negotiation, not rejection
Agreements are only sound if they are understood
The best sessions happen when clients share their desires
Dear sensual explorer,
Memorable sexual experiences are mindful, relaxed and trusting.
Although we are not going to "have sex", it is a sexual experience so hear what Justin Lehmiller and Gabrielle say about good casual sex. It applies to our session because its about communicating authentically during intimacy.
Initiating "doing stuff" will be hornier for you, because you will explore boundary-fluidity instead of only accepting my suggestions. For example, you might say "Can you gently tug and blow on my ears?", "I would like you to watch me undress to the Pink Panther theme" or "My feet are cold, please can you put something over them?". You are guiding me in what you desire, moment-by-moment.
Taking pleasure from touching me is allowed and it doesn't have to be sexual. For example, you might ask "Can I run my fingers over your chest hair?" or I might offer "Would you like to embrace my waist?" . I encourage you to take it gradually at first and see where it takes us in conscious connection, checking-in about how it is flowing for both. The bottom line is that if I grant access to my body then it is agreed, and primarily for your pleasure.
What happens at SkinMap stays in SkinMap, by which I mean I will not identify you personally to anyone. Please do tell all to your friends and leave me a review on Google Business or send me one to post anonymously here😍
Reading this stuff might feel uncomfortable if you're not that sex-positive yet but stick with it. There are three overall themes (change your mind, even during the session):
- No domination (the default): You want me to check-in with you as we go, making offers and you making requests as it progresses.This works best if you looking for a very conscious experience and are less submissive by nature because you will be directing me (to an extent); up to you how you feel on the day and you can switch between the two.
- Healing: (a check-box): You want a massage that is more about helping you feel more connected and confident, perhaps after experiencing something unhelpful in the past that has left you feeling sexually disconnected and/or anxious. There is a bit more here.
- Domination (a check-box): The idea of submitting to me turns you on. We agree how that needs to look so you feel safe and cared for still. We will certainly agree a safe word that isn't "Stop" but something I wouldn't expect to hear such as "Cactus" or whatever. People often combine it with exploring kinks, role-play or impact-play. It is important to note that this is not full domination. I will enjoy doing it, but our intention is not a gift of pleasure for me.
If you find nerves are getting in the way, try this embodiment exercise to overcome them. It is normal for new clients to have this shadow reaction to a novel, vulnerable experience. However, this is your personal, journey of erotic exploration and discovery and nothing except your own judgement can prevent you from embracing it.
I write erotica occasionally so maybe have a read first, if that kind of thing fires up your naughty imagination. Be warned that very little is massage-related, and is mostly hedonistic, filthy, sexual fantasy using very "taboo" language I think gives it "edge"🤪. We all have unexplored fantasies and this might be your chance to realise a few.
See you soon at mine or yours (by prior agreement),
James x
P.S. Take a look at the "What vibe do you desire?" section on the form now for a preview of my "sensual menu of delights".
What happens?
Ethos
Each session is a journey — not a race.
We begin gently, inviting your body to open in its own time. I guide, but you lead the way with your energy, your breath, your readiness.
Every stage is crafted to deepen sensation, heighten trust, and awaken pleasure without ever rushing the process.
You are always in choice.
Nothing is assumed.
Everything unfolds from connection.
🎧Cosmo Interview and 🎥Sneak Preview
🎧Listen to a Cosmopolitan interview with my first "client". Cee Cee was my volunteer when training with Colin Richards of Intimacy Matters in London . They both said I was naturally-gifted and this recording was made the day afterwards, in January 2020.
She excitedly tells her revealing, empowering story of sexual self-discovery and what it felt like the first time she received an erotic massage from a professional😬
Stage 1: Settle and Soften
We begin with slow, connected, grounding touch — designed to calm the nervous system and build trust.
I’ll use my hands with intention, creating a sense of safety and steady presence. Expect soothing, sensual strokes along your neck, lower back, inner thighs, and glutes — suggestive but not overtly erotic.
This stage isn’t about intentional arousal. It’s about readiness — easing the body into receiving.
Stage 2: Invite Arousal
As your awareness sharpens, I begin to reawaken your senses with a mix of invigorating full-body strokes and feather-light fingertip techniques — teasing the edge of sensation.
You may feel flickers of anticipation or even shivers across the skin (energetic orgasm).
I’ll gradually introduce more deliberate, arousing patterns — circling closer to your intimate zones, but always attuned to your breath, sounds, and the cues you offer.
For women, this may be the time you have orgasm(s). For men, I’ll play close to your edge while keeping you in a state of delicious suspension. This is where the dance of control and surrender begins — with me guiding, and you choosing.
Stage 3: Soften Again — and Deepen
If you’re ready to continue, I’ll invite you to lie on your back — supported and draped for comfort. You may wish to use a blindfold at this stage, to deepen your internal focus and heighten other senses.
Now we explore the front of your body with care and attention. If you choose, this may include chest and breast massage, face and neck touch, and eventually, optional exploration of your most intimate areas — always in response to your body, your breath, and your signals.
Hand-holding, verbal check-ins, and subtle gestures guide the energy here. If you choose to touch me back, that is welcomed — not expected — and always framed within a dynamic of mutual presence, not performance.
Aftercare
When the experience concludes, you’ll be given space to integrate — whether that means being gently held, left quietly alone, or simply wiping down with care. This is your time to rest, reflect, and let the energy settle.
Your chosen Intimacy Level at booking will decide whether internal massage is offered, and whether I may become naked too.
Ready to begin your journey?