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What makes me so special?🥰
Intelligent, honest, inclusive, intuitive, sex-positive and professional
I have a healthy sex life myself and am constantly developing my own ideas and views and apply this unique blend of well-developed sex and arousal theories to my work. My opinion is that we must talk about and have sex far more frequently because human beings are socially sexual and are evolved to use it to resolve conflict and strengthen social bonds. I provide couples sex-coaching via my unique 1:1 Sensual Play Workshop which has enhanced the lives of many looking to explore better sexual relating.
I admire, and draw heavily on the work of pioneering sex and relationship experts John Gottman, Dossie Easton, Janet Hardy, Emily Nagoski, Betty Martin and Dr Justin Lehmiller. I have learned about embodied intimacy with Rachel Rickard and Buster Radvic of Embodied Intimacy in Berlin workshops in 2020.
What uniquely differentiates me from many other Sensual Massage Therapists, Somatic Sex Educators and Sexological Bodyworkers is that I am a mature, emotionally literate man, with thirty-six year's experience of adult sexual relationships including twelve years married. I have brought up a daughter and taught her about sex and relating. I am a software engineer and ran my own business for 17 years before joining Natwest Group in 2018 as an analyst. I left that to start this career as I had always had a keen interest in touch, sex and relating waiting to be explored further. I have had many relationships and pride myself on coming out of a 17 year one in 2019 with a determination to do things better in future. I feel I have experienced conflict and then later, the unpleasant consequences of envy, when I formed a new friendship that later became intimate; These are not judgements of either partner however. Being an optimistic problem-solver, I spent months reflecting and researching relationship and sex science, and can now say that I am a self-taught sex geek too. Most importantly, I accepted my part in not addressing the unhealthy dynamic sooner, self-healed and rediscovered self respect and emotional independence.
I fully appreciate the importance for most clients of integrating skin-to-skin intimate touch as a shameless and essential aspect of my work. When clients are in the room with me, they appreciate the fact that I am comfortable to be naked too. In fact, most clients open up to me about sexual relationship issues within sensual massage sessions. I have discovered that I am remarkably good at putting clients at their ease and providing invaluable sex guidance - it's why I started the coaching..
My first massage receiver, Cee Cee remarked, after her 4 hands experience on 25th January 2020 that I am "a natural giver" and was in touch with me again just days afterwards to ask whether she could travel down to Brighton. Her regular masseur was/is rated no. 1 in the UK so that gave me the confidence to start SkinMap knowing I was already way more than good enough.🧙. I soon started massaging men and well, let's just say I knew what I was doing.💥
I have a natural ability to quickly key into anyone's pleasure responses, not just those of partners. I am fascinated by the science of sex and desire and look forward to giving you possibly the best sensual massage experience in the UK.
I will provide a professional, safe service throughout. Our agreement is the email to you when you book. If you change your mind on exclusions you must cancel/recreate the booking. This keeps everything clear between us.🤝
In addition to my sensual massage training, I am also a trained professional bodywork masseur, having completed massage training with Jing Advanced Massage Training in Brighton.
I do not discriminate, and will massage anyone(single women and men included) aged 18+(proof of age required if under 20), of any sex or sexual orientation. If you can't manage to get onto the table I will simply arrange a mattress on the floor and adjust my techniques accordingly instead.
🗣️👥👤I am passionate about society becoming more accepting of sex and intimacy. It should be something we feel comfortable discussing and exploring. Sensual massage should be another option on the list at the hotel spa or something you do with friends at the weekend. In the meantime, safe places to communicate and explore without feeling shame or judgement are needed so I have created a safe, inclusive online community. People are treated equally without rules; Share your fantasies, problems, ask intimate questions, invite people to chat privately. So long as you are respectful of feelings and boundaries anything is acceptable. Read more at bottom of this section.
#NaturalTallent #Trustworthy #Boundaried #Educated #Embodied #Inclusive
Ask me about escorting
I have recently started escorting for couples as a cuck and third and it has been so much fun for all involved. I need to discuss it with you first, obviously.
In Februray it was cuckold at a spa hotel room they booked in Leamington and in March I we booked to seduce his wife at a Brighton seafront hotel before being taken upstairs for a hot threesome.
As a confident sex professional with sensual massage skills and a great bag of toys, I am guaranteed to make your group sex fantasy something to remember and tell friends about. They may well ask you to show them what it was like😏
Embodied intimacy workshops(I'm in the red shorts)
Weekend workshop, Berlin, August 2020
Weekend workshop, Berlin, October 2020
Important texts that have inspired and informed my work
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by C. Ryan
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Sex Beyond Monogamy by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Sex Beyond Monogamy by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
"Sex at Dawn challenges conventional wisdom about sex in a big way. By examining the prehistoric origins of human sexual behavior the authors are able to expose the fallacies and weaknesses of standard theories proposed by most experts. This is a provocative, entertaining, and pioneering book. I learned a lot from it and recommend it highly.” — Andrew Weil, M.D.
Reading this changed everything for me because it convinced me that plenty of recreational, non-monogamous sex is key to human wellbeing
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Sex Beyond Monogamy by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Sex Beyond Monogamy by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Sex Beyond Monogamy by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
'The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.'
This book was key to my understanding of how important open communication of desires is in any kind of relationship.
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Sex Beyond Monogamy by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
Tell Me What You Want by Justin J. Lehmiller
'Underlying almost all of the questions we still have about sex is the common worry: ‘Am I normal?’ This book answers with a resounding Yes! We are all different, but we are all normal - and once we learn this, we can create for ourselves better sex and more profound pleasure than we ever thought possible.'
This book informed my understanding of the myth that we all have a so-called "sex drive" that dictates our enjoyment of sex and ability to have orgasms.
Tell Me What You Want by Justin J. Lehmiller
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John M Gottman
Tell Me What You Want by Justin J. Lehmiller
'Reading [Tell Me What You Want] may be the best thing you ever do for your sex life, your relationships and your self-acceptance' - Geoffrey Miller, author of The Mating Mind, Spent, and Mate.
This book is a fascinating insight into sexual fantasies and transformed my understanding of why group sex seems so important to human beings.
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John M Gottman
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John M Gottman
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John M Gottman
'A world-renowned relationship expert shares his research about love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond.'
I was gripped by this book and the dedication of John to improving our understanding of relationships. He can predict with incredible accuracy how long any given relationship will last. You will thank him for his research.
The Threesome Handbook by Vicki Vantoch
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John M Gottman
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John M Gottman
Vicki interviews seasoned veterans of everybody's favourite group sex activity and finds out how to ensure it at least meets up to realistic expectations.
She even gives examples of threesome positions and grades them by joint orgasmic potential😁. I wish I had read this before our first foray but at least I can talk about it to you with experience now. My post on this
Books in my library
Books in my library
Books in my library
Self-confessed sex, relationship and sensuality geek.😚