What makes me so special?🥰

I have a healthy sex life myself and successfully engage in ethical non-monogamy with my female partner, who works alongside me as a 4 hands masseuse and training volunteer. I am constantly developing my own ideas and views and apply this unique blend of well-developed sex and arousal theories to my work. I provide couples sex-coaching via my unique 1:1 Sensual Play Workshop which has enhanced the lives of many looking to explore better sexual relating.

I admire, and draw heavily on the work of pioneering sex and relationship experts John Gottman, Dossie Easton, Janet Hardy, Emily Nagoski, Betty Martin and Dr Justin Lehmiller. I have learned about embodied intimacy with Rachel Rickard and Buster Radvic of Embodied Intimacy in Berlin workshops in 2020.

What uniquely differentiates me from many other Sensual Massage Therapists,  Somatic Sex Educators and Sexological Bodyworkers is that I am a mature, emotionally literate man, with thirty-six year's experience of adult sexual relationships including twelve years married. I have brought up a daughter and taught her about sex and relating. I am a software engineer and ran my own business for 17 years before joining Natwest Group in 2018 as an analyst. I left that to start this career as I had always had a keen interest in touch, sex and relating waiting to be explored further. I have had many relationships and pride myself on coming out of a 17 year one in 2019 with a determination to do things better in future - I had faced years of emotional abuse and then ex-partner stalking. Being an optimistic problem-solver, I spent months reflecting and reading and can now say that I am a self-taught sex geek too. Most importantly, I accepted my part in attracting an abusive partner, self-healed and rediscovered self respect and emotional independence. I am now in an incredibly healthy and honest relationship which has been the foundation for exploring safe, occasional group sex together and the level of trust required has further strengthened our bond.

I fully appreciate the importance for most clients of integrating skin-to-skin  intimate touch as a shameless and essential aspect of my work. When clients are in the room with me, they appreciate the fact that I am comfortable to be naked too. In fact, most clients open up to me about sexual relationship issues within sensual massage sessions. I have discovered that I am remarkably good at putting clients at their ease and providing invaluable sex guidance - it's why I started the coaching..

My first massage receiver, Cee Cee remarked, after her 4 hands experience on 25th January 2020 that I am "a natural giver" and was in touch with me again just days afterwards to ask whether she could travel down to Brighton. Her regular masseur was/is rated no. 1 in the UK so that gave me the confidence to start SkinMap knowing I was already way more than good enough.🧙. I soon started massaging men and well, let's just say I knew what I was doing.💥

I have a natural ability to quickly key into anyone's pleasure responses, not just those of partners. I am fascinated by the science of sex and desire and look forward to giving you possibly the best sensual massage experience in the UK.

I will provide a professional, safe service throughout. Our agreement is the email to you when you book. If you change your mind on exclusions you must cancel/recreate the booking. This keeps everything clear between us.🤝

In addition to my sensual massage training, I am also a trained professional bodywork masseur, having completed massage training with Jing Advanced Massage Training in Brighton.

I do not discriminate, and will massage anyone aged 18+(proof of age required if under 20), of any sex or sexual orientation. If you can't manage to get onto the table I will simply arrange a mattress on the floor and adjust my techniques accordingly instead.

🗣️👥👤I am passionate about society becoming more accepting of sex and intimacy. It should be something we feel comfortable discussing and exploring. Sensual massage should be another option on the list at the hotel spa or something you do with friends at the weekend. In the meantime, safe places to communicate and explore without feeling shame or judgement are needed so I have created a safe, inclusive online community. People are treated equally without rules; Share your fantasies, problems, ask intimate questions, invite people to chat privately. So long as you are respectful of feelings and boundaries anything is acceptable. Read more at bottom of this section.

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