I have a healthy sex life myself and am constantly developing my own ideas and views and apply this unique blend of well-developed sex and arousal theories to my work. My opinion is that we must talk about and have sex far more frequently because human beings are socially sexual and are evolved to use it to resolve conflict and strengthen social bonds. I provide couples sex-coaching via my unique 1:1 Sensual Play Workshop which has enhanced the lives of many looking to explore better sexual relating.
I admire, and draw heavily on the work of pioneering sex and relationship experts John Gottman, Dossie Easton, Janet Hardy, Emily Nagoski, Betty Martin and Dr Justin Lehmiller. I have learned about embodied intimacy with Rachel Rickard and Buster Radvic of Embodied Intimacy in Berlin workshops in 2020.
What uniquely differentiates me from many other Sensual Massage Therapists, Somatic Sex Educators and Sexological Bodyworkers is that I am a mature, emotionally literate man, with thirty-six year's experience of adult sexual relationships including twelve years married. I have brought up a daughter and taught her about sex and relating. I am a software engineer and ran my own business for 17 years before joining Natwest Group in 2018 as an analyst. I left that to start this career as I had always had a keen interest in touch, sex and relating waiting to be explored further. I have had many relationships and pride myself on coming out of a 17 year one in 2019 with a determination to do things better in future. I feel I have experienced conflict and then later, the unpleasant consequences of envy, when I formed a new friendship that later became intimate; These are not judgements of either partner however. Being an optimistic problem-solver, I spent months reflecting and researching relationship and sex science, and can now say that I am a self-taught sex geek too. Most importantly, I accepted my part in not addressing the unhealthy dynamic sooner, self-healed and rediscovered self respect and emotional independence.
I fully appreciate the importance for most clients of integrating skin-to-skin intimate touch as a shameless and essential aspect of my work. When clients are in the room with me, they appreciate the fact that I am comfortable to be naked too. In fact, most clients open up to me about sexual relationship issues within sensual massage sessions. I have discovered that I am remarkably good at putting clients at their ease and providing invaluable sex guidance - it's why I started the coaching..
My first massage receiver, Cee Cee remarked, after her 4 hands experience on 25th January 2020 that I am "a natural giver" and was in touch with me again just days afterwards to ask whether she could travel down to Brighton. Her regular masseur was/is rated no. 1 in the UK so that gave me the confidence to start SkinMap knowing I was already way more than good enough.🧙. I soon started massaging men and well, let's just say I knew what I was doing.💥
I have a natural ability to quickly key into anyone's pleasure responses, not just those of partners. I am fascinated by the science of sex and desire and look forward to giving you possibly the best sensual massage experience in the UK.
I will provide a professional, safe service throughout. Our agreement is the email to you when you book. If you change your mind on exclusions you must cancel/recreate the booking. This keeps everything clear between us.🤝
In addition to my sensual massage training, I am also a trained professional bodywork masseur, having completed massage training with Jing Advanced Massage Training in Brighton.
I do not discriminate, and will massage anyone(single women and men included) aged 18+(proof of age required if under 20), of any sex or sexual orientation. If you can't manage to get onto the table I will simply arrange a mattress on the floor and adjust my techniques accordingly instead.
🗣️👥👤I am passionate about society becoming more accepting of sex and intimacy. It should be something we feel comfortable discussing and exploring. Sensual massage should be another option on the list at the hotel spa or something you do with friends at the weekend. In the meantime, safe places to communicate and explore without feeling shame or judgement are needed so I have created a safe, inclusive online community. People are treated equally without rules; Share your fantasies, problems, ask intimate questions, invite people to chat privately. So long as you are respectful of feelings and boundaries anything is acceptable. Read more at bottom of this section.
#NaturalTallent #Trustworthy #Boundaried #Educated #Embodied #Inclusive
I have recently started escorting for couples as a cuck and third and it has been so much fun for all involved. I need to discuss it with you first, obviously.
In Februray it was cuckold at a spa hotel room they booked in Leamington and in March I we booked to seduce his wife at a Brighton seafront hotel before being taken upstairs for a hot threesome.
As a confident sex professional with sensual massage skills and a great bag of toys, I am guaranteed to make your group sex fantasy something to remember and tell friends about. They may well ask you to show them what it was like😏
"Sex at Dawn challenges conventional wisdom about sex in a big way. By examining the prehistoric origins of human sexual behavior the authors are able to expose the fallacies and weaknesses of standard theories proposed by most experts. This is a provocative, entertaining, and pioneering book. I learned a lot from it and recommend it highly.” — Andrew Weil, M.D.
Reading this changed everything for me because it convinced me that plenty of recreational, non-monogamous sex is key to human wellbeing
'The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.'
This book was key to my understanding of how important open communication of desires is in any kind of relationship.
'Underlying almost all of the questions we still have about sex is the common worry: ‘Am I normal?’ This book answers with a resounding Yes! We are all different, but we are all normal - and once we learn this, we can create for ourselves better sex and more profound pleasure than we ever thought possible.'
This book informed my understanding of the myth that we all have a so-called "sex drive" that dictates our enjoyment of sex and ability to have orgasms.
'Reading [Tell Me What You Want] may be the best thing you ever do for your sex life, your relationships and your self-acceptance' - Geoffrey Miller, author of The Mating Mind, Spent, and Mate.
This book is a fascinating insight into sexual fantasies and transformed my understanding of why group sex seems so important to human beings.
'A world-renowned relationship expert shares his research about love and what it takes to develop a trustful, intimate, and emotionally fulfilling bond.'
I was gripped by this book and the dedication of John to improving our understanding of relationships. He can predict with incredible accuracy how long any given relationship will last. You will thank him for his research.
Vicki interviews seasoned veterans of everybody's favourite group sex activity and finds out how to ensure it at least meets up to realistic expectations.
She even gives examples of threesome positions and grades them by joint orgasmic potential😁. I wish I had read this before our first foray but at least I can talk about it to you with experience now. My post on this
Self-confessed sex, relationship and sensuality geek.😚
"I had been on the lookout for a sensual massage for a while and James did not disappoint. It’s nice to have some time that is all about you and nobody else. He is very attentive, made me feel very welcome and relaxed in his space and is such easygoing company.
The massage was wonderful and the hand squeezes he gives are such a wonderful non verbal form of consent and I felt he was really in tune with my body!
Have booked again and will continue to do so!"
As a sensual masseuse herself, Bella was yearning to receive pleasure herself , for once. She reciprocated by coming back to give me a paid sensual massage in return. If you are a trained massage therapist, I would be happy to do a non-paid exchange with you.
"This is the second time I have been to visit James and really can’t say how highly I recommend him, firstly James listened to my needs and wants and even though I am new to this kind of sensual massage I did let him take the lead and see how it worked. Both times wow great massage but also a lot of pleasure and new experiences with feathers, spikes etc really felt comfortable and could say what was good and what I wanted more of, I suffer with premature ejaculation and James really helped keep waiting until the right time which was amazing.. he is magical and really worth trying. I can’t leave a review in the web as my partner doesn’t know I visited otherwise I would be telling everyone" .
Me(listening to music): "Takes me back: Sexually frustrated teen with no clue around horny girls who were flirting blatantly with HIM 😂
My girlfriend: "Sensitive soul. You’re making up for it now with all sorts of horny people making their wishes abundantly clear to you and you’re handling it with age and emotional intelligence😁"
"A client of James had a request for another person to assist and to fulfil his fantasies. As well as being massaged, the client specifically wanted to be spanked while blindfolded…which heightened his excitement.
Having been massaged by James before, I know he’s very good at making people feel relaxed and at ease, as well as excited. With an array of toys we teased the client to his specific requirements in a very safe, consensual environment. It was exciting for me to assist James on this occasion and to help the client act out his fantasies.".
Here is some feedback on my visit to you last Thursday for you to paste into your comments section
My recent visit to James was most pleasurable and included a very therapeutic massage. Afterwards I felt very relaxed for some time and my sometimes painful shoulder following an injury felt very much better.
I would recommend him to anybody who wanted to explore new avenues for a worthwhile experience of self discovery of one's body. An experience I hope to repeat."
Many thanks and hope to see you again.
"Hi James, couldn't thank you enough for the fantastic time we had there. I really enjoyed the erotic experience. I never thought I would be so horny that day. It felt like u did some magic to stimulate the other side of me!! I think, I went out of control on that day but finally did enjoy it in the end. I think I reached orgasm many times. I personally loved the clit stimulation you did, it was fabulous!! I Hope you liked what I did to you as well. Thinking of the experience I had then makes me feel horny now. Thank you again for giving us tips to improve our sexual life. Truly worth it.
"I was so pleased when i found James’s website. It has tons of interesting content and made me really want to arrange for a massage. So i did.
Parking was easy near his location. James was very welcoming and put me at ease straight away. The room was warm and cosy.
The massage was amazing. I always enjoy touch from another male. James definitely knows how to touch the right places and take you to heaven.
He is a really interesting guy with lots of experience, guidance and suggestions to help you on your journey. As an explorer i definitely want to visit again to experience and learn more.".
"James was outstandingly good. Very professional in his manner, his massage was the best I’ve ever experienced because he moved me emotionally into a space akin to a meditative state. I felt truly elevated and yes, I did become very sensually aroused without being touched directly. It was deliciously gradual and in the end it was a sensational, spiritually nourishing one to one experience. I felt elated afterwards."
"James was attentive & very professional. I was made to feel welcome & relaxed on arrival. He obviously knows his stuff and I left feeling better. He made the effort to get to know me and what I needed. Altogether a very pleasant experience."
"I went to James without knowing what to expect . We didn’t speak before and I thought it was going to be a standard massage with eventually a happy ending … no it was much more than that. Extremely sexy touch with his hands abs really able to understand what you need to take you to a journey of pleasure .. starting from nice stimulation and increasing until pleasure is at its maximum!! Let yourself go and experience pleasure !! James can definitely help you with that !"
"@Sarah: Can we see photos of you?
@James: You, and other recent clients and enquiries, have inspired me to add a new page! My partner and I went to a lovely party on Friday, which also helped us understand more about this fantasy. Thank you. https://skinmap.co.uk/cuckold
@Sarah: That’s us!!
@James: Well, I pride myself on identifying open-minded explorers when they get in touch. It seems like you, and straight men looking to explore their bisexuality are the main market for me. I love this work - was a software developer for 33 years and this beats it hands down
@Sarah: Wow that’s a big change!!
@James: Aha, not your usual career progression path but hey, I needed a change and am very good at this.
@Sarah: I hope so!!
@Sarah: Have you had cuckold couples many times?
@James: You would be the third couple. Things have been understandably slow over past 17 months. It has gone very well with the first two.
@Sarah: How tall are you?
@Sarah: I’m 5 8!
@James:You will be on my table so I will tower over you
@Sarah: Yes only joking. Anyway you look big where it matters most!!"
"@Tony: Have you been doing this long James?
@James: I was introduced to tantric massage by my ex partner and now good friend in July 2019 and had a 3 hour massage (sensual).
She took me to her favourite sex club in Prague afterwards and it opened my mind further.
We went on a couple's massage workshop that autumn and I realised I was very good. She paid for me to have one to one training with Colin Richards of https://Intimacymatters.co.uk. He and my volunteer female said I was a natural
.@Charlie: Well I'm definitely feeling more excited now I know who we're meeting. X
@Tony: Wow thanks for the detailed reply James abs really appreciate your honesty. We’re very open people and very sexual ourselves. We also love meeting new people too
@Charlie: The website is spot on. Very impressive. Makes sense now you said you're a software/Internet professional. It reads so well from start to finish. Honestly think it's spot on. Really turned me on reading through it. And totally non seedy. Xxx
@Tony: I would get quite turned on I think seeing Charlie touch you.
@Charlie: Excited nerves. Xxx"
"Your website is informative and honest. I’d only received sports massage never a sensual one and had, for some time been curious about a male massaging me in a sexual way. I found you by searchiing Brighton Male Massage.
It was mind-blowing and I hardly knew where I was at the end - I struggled to get up off the table. I've never felt so relaxed in my life.
You have given me lots of things to reconsider about myself."
"It was a very pleasant meet with James. Very welcoming, nice room with a massage table and hot oil. Good chat before the massage what made me more relaxed. James worked hard but very gently and payed attention to my body reactions. I had a wonderful time and I can only recommend."
"Impressive website first led me to booking and the subsequent information and options given on arrival was refreshing to hear.Room was a fair size and tastefully furnished no issues with street noise.Hot oil was used which added to the experience and would say the glute work and thigh massage was excellent. I booked sensual and in places it was but i feel the more you go the more sensuality will come out."
"James was great, open and forthright, no embarrassments, no surprises, he lives up to the SkinMap website (superb). Premises are small and cosy, don’t expect modern opulence, but the service is genuine and the results are as advertised, he’s good. I will be back, maybe take a training session. The best Brighton male massage!"
"James -what can I say?
I have never come so hard or that many times. Seeing you a second time felt even more relaxed and you remembered that I liked just firm hands, without the feathers and things. That wee bit of pain when you did my leg muscles was good and the long, slow strokes were my favourite. It's how I like sex but the big advantage with you is that you know what you are doing down there and even ask what feels best and for how long. Glad I booked "Interact" this time so I could grab hold of your cock! Better than sex? 5/5 this time! Annie x"
"James put me at ease - calm, friendly and intuitive. Everything flowed very well, except at one point when he used the spiky wheel thing, but that is only because I have very sensitive skin. When I tried to touch his penis, he moved away. Really looking forward to a follow up massage in a few weeks - a New Year treat to myself!"
"I felt completely safe, held, respected, listened to and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience. Very professional. I am now feeling peaceful, relaxed and content. You have healing hands!! Thank you James"
"My massage with James was an excellent experience. He was professional and put me at my ease when we discussed what I wanted from the massage. He checked in with me during and the massage itself was great and really hit the spot. He has great hands and gives an excellent massage."
"This was my first sensual massage with a qualified and experienced masseur. I was quite nervous initially, but James put me at ease through his very down to earth attitude and Karisma. James used a mixture of strokes and toys to enhance the experience... "
"I was fortunate enough to enjoy a sensual massage in Brighton with James recently and would recommend to all. James was attentive, enthusiastic and skilled. He made a great effort to put us both at ease to ensure our experience was the best it could be and was able to take me into a zone of pleasure that lasted for around 2 hours... "
"I kept wanting to look at your body 😍, but I was face down😟"
"I felt so relaxed and at ease with you touching me🥰, which isn't normal for me with new people - I'm actually very shy. I loved that you kept squeezing my hands. You are a natural😏".
"It completely broke the ice when we giggled like naughty children".
"Was I really that wet💦🤪? I can come to Brighton next weekend🚂?".
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