Good sex is relaxed

Ensure you are looking after yourself and everyone you have fun with.

• If you have a partner, ensure you have no unexplored jealousies, whether or not you engage with others
• Agree your boundaries with everyone and try to keep within them
• Be honest and transparent when discussing your intentions and what you would like to explore with others
• Be respectful to all of your sexual partners/playmates. Respect their wishes and never emotionally-manipulate  or "spring" anything on them. For example, I will never accept erotic massage bookings as a surprise "gift" for someone else. As an awful personal example, a past girlfriend turned a BBQ with my friend into a threesome situation and claimed it was what I had wanted!
• Constantly check in with your partner to see they are happy with the relationship especially if you involve others in your sex. "Can I have sex with this person" should be something you should ask if that is your rule, for example
• Do not do anything you don't want to. For example, if you hate the idea of anal sex then say no, unless you realise you are actually enjoying it, then just respond...
• Get regular STI/HIV checks if you are having oral or penetrative sex with anyone outside you main relationship, or if your partner is. This is irrespective of whether you use protection.