Sensual awakenings since 2019
Conscious erotic experiences in Brighton
I hold a safe, trusting space guided by The Wheel of Consent® so your body and mind fully accept my caring, sensual touch
Massage For Thoughtful Pleasure-seekers
What Makes Me Different?
Mine isn’t just touch - it’s attuned, ethical, embodied connection.
While others may offer sensuality, I offer precision, presence, and purpose. Every session is rooted in:
- Emotional safety first - no performance, no pressure
- Trauma-informed care - boundaries respected, every time
- Sacred meets sexual - pleasure as a pathway to wholeness
- Co-regulation and consent - every detail co-created with you
This is bodywork for the whole self - erotic, intelligent, and unforgettable.
Maintaining A Safe Space
Massage Boundary
During erotic massage, gifts of pleasure only flow from me to you (as described by "The SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service©")
Agreements
I make offers, and you requests about:
- How you are touched
- How I am touched
And ethics imply:
- Offers responded to with gratitude
- Requests made without expectation
- Negotiation, not rejection
Erotic Awareness Ceremony
Let’s Just Say… You Wouldn’t Be the First to Ask.
Over time, an increasing number of clients (especially women) have asked, “[…can we go further?]”, as they lay, post-orgasmic, on my table. The actual phrasing is generally more explicit!
So rather than pretend it doesn’t happen (or let things get murky), I created the Erotic Awareness Ceremony: a clear, conscious space where that desire can be explored, not denied or judged, but held with care, clarity, and mutual consent.
It’s not a free-for-all. It’s not just sex. It’s a container, one designed to honour the energy between us, not exploit it.
And yes… the FOMO is real. But only come when you're ready.
Would your partner be jealous?
Janet and Dossie say the following about overcoming jealousy in their worldwide best-seller, "The Ethical Slut":
"The challenge comes in learning to establish within yourself a strong foundation of safety in your relationship that is not dependent on sexual exclusivity. This difficult work is part of a larger question of how to grasp your personal power and learn to understand and love yourselves without another person to validate you."
Services
Finest erotic services in Sussex
Genital touch, 18+ and guided by The Wheel Of Consent®.
We invite connection with a heart-opening ritual, then a sacred, mindful massage that awakens presence.
For Women
When relaxation is present, the body softens. Emotional resistance gives way to deep surrender, opening the door to pleasure.
For Men
Shifting attention away from performance reconnects with sensitivity. Away from pressure - towards flow.
This is receiving with awareness—a gateway to more empowered, embodied intimacy in every area of life.
Book solo (maybe bring a lover/friend (F.O.C.)?)
Sensual or tantric (90 minutes)
£90-£150
Full-length sexual massage and/or kink-exploration (see below). Usually incorporates a yoni/lingam massage.
Book below:
After booking, I ask you to choose your "vibe" and give consent here. For example:
- tantric🧞
- cuckold👁 (partner F.O.C.)
- bi-curious❓
- fantasy role-play🧛
- impact play🤚
- kink/bdsm and toys🪢
- Touch me👐
- Hot stones🪨
Erotic Awareness Ceremony (2 or 3 hours)
£200 or £300
FOR PAST MASSAGE CLIENTS.
More than a massage. More than sex. This is a sacred, sensual experience designed to awaken your full erotic self, with reverence, care, and precision. Our process is:
- You are a past client
- You have a recent, clear STI test you can show
- We agree we want to do this
- Opening ceremony to connect and set intentions🙏
- Explore erotic and energetic connection for 2 or 3 hours🫠🔥
- Closing ceremony to honour what was created🙏
All details as per the previous service except from 2 capable men.
Collaborator Dom has been offering high-quality bodywork in Brighton for some time and his approach aligns perfectly with mine—grounded in care, clarity, and genuine sensual presence.
We can be naked, at your request. This service not available as out-call.
Accommodation
Why not stay over in my flat above?
£variable
As holiday-home host since 2021, you can book one or more nights right above my home (where I give your massage).
Availability can be limited, especially at weekends and in the Summer but the convenience (as my sensual client) may convince you it is worth choosing an available hosting night.
Conventional massage
Nakedness optional, 16+ and no genital touch
Proper massage (naked or not) with no genital touch😇.
I am a trained Jing deep-tissue bodywork therapist.
Can incorporate hot stones.
Choose either of
- Jing deep tissue, pain-relief massage (book video consultation online).
- Sensual touch
If 18+ you may upgrade to one of the erotic services during your session (subject to having additional money and my being available for any time extension).
Information (incl. age) and consent requested online after booking request.
Looking for novelty?
According to research, we all have sexual fantasies we want to realise
Many feel shame about having sex fantasies and they remain unexplored except during masturbation. Clients sometimes share them with me for the 1st time and maybe you recognise these most common themes?
- More than two: Both sexes have at least entertained the idea of a threesome
- Power, control, and rough: Rough sex involving spanking, hot wax, restraints, biting, and other dom/sub acts rate highly for many
- Changing things up: It can help reignite the spark in a long-term relationship
- Taboo circumstances: Rule-breaking and the risk of getting caught
- Open relationships: Similar to threesome, the idea of opening up a relationship
- Passion and romance: Meaningful sex that makes you feel desired (and good in bed)
- Same-sex encounters, gender-bending, and erotic flexibility
For my sensual massage in Brighton clients, "Taboo circumstances" and "same-sex encounter" fantasies are top for many. For couples massages, "more than two" and "changing things up" are always important. Everyone needs to experience 4 hands on them at least once; you are just introducing my skilled hands and guidance to your relationship for a couple of hours..
All are welcome, and maybe you are a bi-curious man, sexually-bored wife, curious about BDSM, or a couple looking for a threesome massage experience without full sex, just yet?
Discover more about fantasies by listening to expert Dr Justin Lehmiller.
Jealousy Into Joy
If you've read The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, you’ll know it’s a goldmine of wisdom around navigating jealousy, freedom, and intimacy.
SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service©
Reimagining Consent: The SkinMap Wheel of Erotic Service ©
This visual emerged after many hours of reflection, practice, and deep inquiry into how Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent could evolve to honour the unique dynamics of erotic massage.
As a practitioner, I’ve long observed that many clients, after experiencing the safety, presence, and sensual depth of an embodied session, feel an organic desire not just to receive touch, but to give it in return. Not in a transgressive or boundary-pushing way, but as a natural expression of mutual connection and trust.
Yet the original Wheel of Consent didn’t quite accommodate this space. It was built around polarity:someone gives, someone receives. In erotic massage, where connection deepens and roles can gently shift, something else was needed to honour the fact that everything is for the client's pleasure.
This version centres the two-way flow of erotic touch, grounded in the understanding that intention and agreement shape everything. The four quadrants remain rooted in consent principles, but they allow for a more mutual and co-created experience:
- Give Gift: The therapist offers touch for the client's benefit.
- Take Gift: The client offers touch for their own enjoyment, with clear agreement.
- Receive Gift: The client accepts touch that is offered for their pleasure.
- Allow Gift: The therapist permits the client to touch, in service of the client’s experience.
What changes here is clarity of invitation. Every action is framed by mutual consent, named and known in advance. The therapist never owes receptivity, but can choose to receive touch with sovereignty and presence.
The client is never expected to give touch, but is empowered to, when it arises from genuine desire and shared agreement.
The diagram describes the following agreements
I can make offers, and you requests about:
- How you are touched
- How I am touched
And ethics imply:
- Offers responded to with gratitude
- Requests made without expectation
- Negotiation, not rejection
Agreements are only sound if they are understood
The best sessions happen when clients share their desires
Dear sensual explorer,
Memorable sexual experiences are mindful, relaxed and trusting.
Although we are not going to "have sex", it is a sexual experience so hear what Justin Lehmiller and Gabrielle say about good casual sex. It applies to our session because its about communicating authentically during intimacy.
Initiating "doing stuff" will be hornier for you, because you will explore boundary-fluidity instead of only accepting my suggestions. For example, you might say "Can you gently tug and blow on my ears?", "I would like you to watch me undress to the Pink Panther theme" or "My feet are cold, please can you put something over them?". You are guiding me in what you desire, moment-by-moment.
Taking pleasure from touching me is allowed and it doesn't have to be sexual. For example, you might ask "Can I run my fingers over your chest hair?" or I might offer "Would you like to embrace my waist?" . I encourage you to take it gradually at first and see where it takes us in conscious connection, checking-in about how it is flowing for both. The bottom line is that if I grant access to my body then it is agreed, and primarily for your pleasure.
What happens at SkinMap stays in SkinMap, by which I mean I will not identify you personally to anyone. Please do tell all to your friends and leave me a review on Google Business or send me one to post anonymously here😍
Reading this stuff might feel uncomfortable if you're not that sex-positive yet but stick with it. There are three overall themes (change your mind, even during the session):
- No domination (the default): You want me to check-in with you as we go, making offers and you making requests as it progresses.This works best if you looking for a very conscious experience and are less submissive by nature because you will be directing me (to an extent); up to you how you feel on the day and you can switch between the two.
- Healing: (a check-box): You want a massage that is more about helping you feel more connected and confident, perhaps after experiencing something unhelpful in the past that has left you feeling sexually disconnected and/or anxious. There is a bit more here.
- Domination (a check-box): The idea of submitting to me turns you on. We agree how that needs to look so you feel safe and cared for still. We will certainly agree a safe word that isn't "Stop" but something I wouldn't expect to hear such as "Cactus" or whatever. People often combine it with exploring kinks, role-play or impact-play. It is important to note that this is not full domination. I will enjoy doing it, but our intention is not a gift of pleasure for me.
If you find nerves are getting in the way, try this embodiment exercise to overcome them. It is normal for new clients to have this shadow reaction to a novel, vulnerable experience. However, this is your personal, journey of erotic exploration and discovery and nothing except your own judgement can prevent you from embracing it.
I write erotica occasionally so maybe have a read first, if that kind of thing fires up your naughty imagination. Be warned that very little is massage-related, and is mostly hedonistic, filthy, sexual fantasy using very "taboo" language I think gives it "edge"🤪. We all have unexplored fantasies and this might be your chance to realise a few.
See you soon at mine or yours (by prior agreement),
James x
P.S. Take a look at the "What vibe do you desire?" section on the form now for a preview of my "sensual menu of delights".
Your Erotic Journey
Ethos
Each session is a journey — not a race.
We begin gently, inviting your body to open in its own time. I guide, but you lead the way with your energy, your breath, your readiness.
Every stage is crafted to deepen sensation, heighten trust, and awaken pleasure without ever rushing the process.
You are always in choice.
Nothing is assumed.
Everything unfolds from connection.
More on the stages...
Settle and Soften
We begin with slow, connected, grounding touch — designed to calm the nervous system and build trust.
I’ll use my hands with intention, creating a sense of safety and steady presence. Expect soothing, sensual strokes along your neck, lower back, inner thighs, and glutes — suggestive but not overtly erotic.
This stage isn’t about intentional arousal. It’s about readiness — easing the body into receiving.
Invite Arousal
As your awareness sharpens, I begin to reawaken your senses with a mix of invigorating full-body strokes and feather-light fingertip techniques — teasing the edge of sensation.
You may feel flickers of anticipation or even shivers across the skin (energetic orgasm).
I’ll gradually introduce more deliberate, arousing patterns — circling closer to your intimate zones, but always attuned to your breath, sounds, and the cues you offer.
For women, this may feel expansive and even orgasmic. For men, I’ll play close to your edge while keeping you in a state of delicious suspension. This is where the dance of control and surrender begins — with me guiding, and you choosing.
Soften Again — and Deepen
If you’re ready to continue, I’ll invite you to lie on your back — supported and draped for comfort. You may wish to use a blindfold at this stage, to deepen your internal focus and heighten other senses.
Now we explore the front of your body with care and attention. If you choose, this may include chest and breast massage, face and neck touch, and eventually, optional exploration of your most intimate areas — always in response to your body, your breath, and your signals.
Hand-holding, verbal check-ins, and subtle gestures guide the energy here. If you choose to touch me back, that is welcomed — not expected — and always framed within a dynamic of mutual presence, not performance.
Aftercare
When the experience concludes, you’ll be given space to integrate — whether that means being gently held, left quietly alone, or simply wiping down with care. This is your time to rest, reflect, and let the energy settle.
Your chosen Intimacy Level at booking will decide whether internal massage is offered, and whether I may become naked too.
Ready to begin your journey?