*Must be requested on your booking form.
**Kinks to be requested on your booking form so we can agree details before your session. Can only be realised within the context of your massage and I will only introduce elements we have agreed upon. You can use an agreed "safe word" to stop the scene and revert to regular sensual massage.
My testimony from Cee Cee shows the desire she felt for me: We very quickly connected emotionally and she thrilled as her naked body was revealed to me then trusted me to touch her intimately, leading to multiple powerful orgasms. For only the second time in her life, she felt completely relaxed in a man's hands and wanted "more" 😬. I managed the situation sensitively and professionally, setting me apart from those who might have taken advantage of the situation. As always, I discussed the situation with my partner.
Only book the intimacy service you are comfortable with:
(touching me can not include masturbation).
I will create the sexual desire you need to orgasm. There is no intention to take or receive sexual gratification from the situation but I sometimes become aroused myself; it is not necessarily a reflection of how attractive I find you. My ability to respect boundaries and keep the space safe for us is key to trust, relaxation and success.
Having a self-serious "tantra guru", "sex engineer" or "adonis" therapist can stop some from establishing an emotional connection because they are not "showing you" their true selves. You don't feel comfortable making yourself vulnerable and so may not fully relax as they touch you, emotionally blocking your orgasm. My female clients generally experience 2, 3 or more intense, full-body orgasms because you connect->trust->relax->desire alongside physical arousal. Your orgasms are more about you intensely desiring my touch than being aroused or me touching you. The chain starts the moment I greet you.
Instead, we can role-play these serious stereotypes with agreement so it becomes a hot fantasy scene where we are connected - do you see the difference? It will then be relaxed, naughty, light-hearted, fantastic, passionate, slippery fun. With me, you will feel free to giggle, laugh, swear, squeal, groan, moan, writhe, shake and buck. It becomes your space to let go and unleash your sensual, raw, hedonistic self without shame or guilt.
I am not sexual trauma-trained and so if you are think there is a risk that the session will bring up serious emotional pain, I would ask that you visit a therapist specifically trained to deal with such issues instead. However, it is of course an emotional experience and expression is welcome; I am a well-balanced and emotionally literate man and happy to cuddle and soothe but not to give talking therapy.
#skilled #experienced #ethical #honest #fun
Of course it happens! As my girlfriend said: "It feels so good when you touch me because you know exactly what you are doing with those hot, strong hands. I can imagine why your clients get so horny - my concern is, that they will try to have sex with you - well, who would know?"
I will gently move away from your hands or mouth when it tips into you pleasuring me. It would feel good, but you haven't paid for it and it's outside of the agreement with my partner. You may caress me when I am within reach. Book the "Interact" massage to see and touch all of me... If you are into submission, let me know (when you book) if you want to be disciplined when you don't behave yourself😈.
"James -what can I say?
I have never come so hard or that many times. Seeing you a second time felt even more relaxed and you remembered that I liked just firm hands, without the feathers and things. That wee bit of pain when you did my leg muscles was good and the long, slow strokes were my favourite. It's how I like sex but the big advantage with you is that you know what you are doing down there and even ask what feels best and for how long. Better than sex? 5/5 this time! Anita x"
"James put me at ease - calm, friendly and intuitive. Everything flowed very well, except at one point when he used the spiky wheel thing, but that is only because I have very sensitive skin. When I tried to touch his penis, he moved away. Really looking forward to a follow up massage in a few weeks - a New Year treat to myself!"
"I felt completely safe, held, respected, listened to and thoroughly enjoyed the whole experience. Very professional. I am now feeling peaceful, relaxed and content. You have healing hands!! Thank you James"
"My massage with James was an excellent experience. He was professional and put me at my ease when we discussed what I wanted from the massage. He checked in with me during and the massage itself was great and really hit the spot. He has great hands."
"This was my first sensual massage with a qualified and experienced masseur. I was quite nervous initially, but James put me at ease through his very down to earth attitude and Karisma. James used a mixture of strokes and toys to enhance the experience... "
"I was fortunate enough to enjoy a sensual massage with James recently and would recommend to all. James was attentive, enthusiastic and skilled. He made a great effort to put us both at ease to ensure our experience was the best it could be and was able to take me into a zone of pleasure that lasted for around 2 hours... "
"I kept wanting to look at your body 😍, but I was face down😟"
"I felt so relaxed and at ease with you touching me🥰, which isn't normal for me with new people - I'm actually very shy. I loved that you kept squeezing my hands. You are a natural😏".
"It completely broke the ice when we giggled like naughty children in front of Colin😂 - he didn't understand that it helped me to connect with you - he was trying to keep it professional in front of you...🤨".
"Was I really that wet💦🤪? I can come to Brighton next weekend🚂?".
Most of us spend our lives sexually unfulfilled. It starts with a useless sex education that teaches about procreation, not pleasure, then we fill in the gaps with society's shameful, homophobic, monogamous judgements and think that porn is how real sex looks. Come to a professional who will demonstrate how good sex should feel so that you can seek it out with others. Bring a partner or friend for free, so you can each practice giving pleasure alongside me(extended sessions available on request).
Through mindful touch, I will show you how relaxed, embodied, sensual pleasure improves your whole life, perhaps for the first time. Your sex life won't be the same again and you will feel desirable and confident in your own skin.
Women can struggle to come during sex because of sensitive emotional "brakes" that need turning off. You often aren't given the emotional security and time to relax and desire sex by partners. I show you how foreplay should feel and that you should not be focused on your orgasm. If you relax, it will emerge with my touch.
Many men struggle because of an emotional disconnect with their penis, which leads to performance anxiety, impotence and premature ejaculation. Viagra is usually a sticking plaster over emotional anxiety. I aim to make you feel more connected with your whole body and help you deal with those issues. Ejaculatory orgasm is not my main aim but very likely at the moment I choose if you relax. Most male clients identify as "straight" but can't contain their excitement at my touch - it does not necessarily indicate that you are gay but that you have much in common with others.
Of course, you may just be after a damn good time that can include some light BDSM if you choose. Whatever the case, lie back and enjoy the sensual journey in my "magic hands"(@Sally Lunn 9/9/20).
As a SkinMap client, get access to exclusive content in the VIP Area of the site including the exclusive Telegram group. Become part of a community of non-threatening, like-minded, sex-positive folk. Maybe organise a massage social night to gently meet people or organising a joint visit to a sex club. It may then lead to off-group chats around a threesome, orgy or swinging at a later date. For many, it is much less intimidating than a sex club or swingers site. I moderate the group closely and sensitively intervene if anyone reports feeling uncomfortable - it usually isn't intentional and each of us has our unique trauma "triggers" around sex. If I become a friend, then I can no longer offer you professional services but you remain a member of the group.
I will give you a relaxing sensual massage with external and internal stimulation, tailored to your needs and desires after absolute agreement between us around our boundaries. All therapeutic massage given is bodywork. It may also include role-play or BDSM if we have discussed and agreed them. Detail them on the booking form.
You will be naked, allowing free-flowing and sensual strokes to the whole body.
It will take place on my high quality, spotlessly clean treatment table in my warm room (21c), with your choice of scent and soft music (we can use your Spotify playlist). You may have a shower first. I'll leave the room for you to prepare and fully relax your body and mind, covering yourself with a towel.
I will be guided by my natural intuition, taking all sorts of cues from you, physical and verbal. I'll encourage you to shift around and vocalise.
Roughly speaking, there will be 3 stages, split more or less equally but very much dependent upon your responses as we progress:
1. Trust And Relaxation
The first phase will be about building trust and relaxing with just a little teasing to begin arousal. You'll be face down on the treatment table with a towel covering your body from shoulders to feet and I'll begin with head massage, gently stroking your neck and ears.
Then light touches, progressing to firm pressure applied up and down the body, all over the towel at this stage.
I'll remove the towel extremely slowly, dragging it down over the body to the feet. You will feel an incredibly powerful sensation as it moves across the body, combined the feeling of being exposed, which can be very exciting.
I'll then use ostrich feathers, finger-tips and other sensory stimulation devices to awaken your senses.
Now, hot coconut oil will be gently applied, and I'll give a bodywork full body massage with mostly long and slow strokes. They will be firm but not deep tissue.
There can be body contact, caressing, hugging, and I always hold and squeeze hands to build a trusting context. There will be sensual touch of the neck, inner thighs, buttocks to tease and thus build desire, but it won't be fully erotic at this stage.
2. Build Arousal
I'll reawaken the senses, first with brisk all over body strokes, and then angel fingers or finger nails across the body. It can feel like electric shocks but it's very nice and shouldn't be unpleasantly ticklish (it's can be a fine line). I'll continue with bodywork massage, introducing more deliberately arousing strokes brushing and teasing your intimate areas, building frequency and intensity gradually increasing my focus on them.
Stimulation will become more vigorous with techniques** intended to simulate sex and give the feeling of being pinned down. Being face down allows you to fantasise about me and what's happening.
I'll be masturbating** you as you grind hips and moan. For women, you might cum but it's not the goal. For men I'll careful not to go to level 7(the point of no return) yet and keep you just at the edge. As a women, you may cum a few times then need to be left alone, covered, to relax for a bit.
3. Calm and Build Again
After checking you are ready to continue, I'll ask you to turn onto your back, with a towel covering and support for your head. You may like to put on a blindfold, which can heighten other senses.
More hands up thighs and brushing against your balls/pussy building to feel like frenzied, hot sex with firm, hot hand pressure and hot oil between your legs. Varied pussy/penis/prostate masturbation** until you probably release and cum hard. I gently hold and squeeze your shaft base/vulva as your body relaxes. For women, I'll build then relax for as long as you want to keep cumming.
I can finish with leaving alone/cuddling/hand-holding/gentle wiping - whatever you need to feel cared for.
**Certain aspects are limited by your booking choice:
(touching me can not include masturbation).
#organised #confident #skilled
During the drive to Brighton, I noticed I was squirming on the seat, unable to stop imagining James' hands on my body. Now I am here, in his flat, I instantly feel like the most desirable and sensuous being that he has ever set eyes on. Does this happen to everyone who comes to him and why isn't it like this with my partners?
I involuntarily shift my gaze to his right ear, feeling shy in his presence. I smile as I imagine his eyes taking in every inch of my naked body for the first time - submitting to his strong hands. The way he is smiling broadly tells me he knows what I am thinking - oh my!
He catches me taking a sly glance at his perfectly rounded crotch and I blush like a child - what's happened to the responsible adult of this morning? I feel the blood starting to swell me and that unmistakable twitch between my legs as we chat about my journey here. He can do anything he likes to me, right now.
My smart flat is a 15 min walk from Brighton Station(address provided upon booking).
If you live in London, then my doorstep is just 1.5 hours from Victoria or London Bridge by train. Make it part of a naughty weekend in Brighton with a partner or friend or just come down for the day - many neighbours commute to London daily.
Out-call options are available for each service on the Booking page so that you can have your massage at home or some other venue..
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UPDATE: Sex parties will be legal again from 21st Jun 2021 and will be listed as soon as I have details. Check back regularly because tickets will sell like hot-cakes this year.
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Contrary to popular belief, men are highly sensitive to perceived rejection and are especially aroused by knowing how much someone enjoys their body. On the whole, monogamy seems more important for them. They were not detected getting hard over monkeys shagging in experiments.
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